- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I am a big lurker, and I’ll post when I feel like I can really offer something of value. I read all these scenarios with nightmare in-laws and bridesmaids gone bad, and I just never thought I’d be one who’d really need help/advice from experienced wedding people.
Yet, here I am.
Originally, I wasn’t even going to have a bridal party–just my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor. But then I got to thinking about the women in my life who were truly important to me, and how much I wanted them by my side on this awesome day. So I asked them. And they all readily accepted.
I love bright colors, so I have a rainbow-type color scheme, and I let each of the girls pick the color they wanted to wear–they found a dress they liked in that color. From whereever they wanted.
Only one of my bridesmaids lives here in PDX with me. The rest are back in WI, and one just moved to NC. I know that they have to invest a great deal to be a part of my day. I have taken that into consideration, and have tried to ask very little of them. I have offered them to stay at my house, I will drive them around, seriously, anything I can do to help them.
I am not having a shower, nor a bachelorette party.
Today I sent an email with the tentative itinerary.
I really wanted to go out to dinner/get drinks with the girls on the Thursday night before the wedding. Friday is rehearsal at 6, and then a dinner gathering for out of town guests. I wanted the girls to spend the night at my place on Friday to spend the day getting ready/hanging out/pictures on Saturday since I rarely get to see them and spend time with them.
One of my bridesmaids emailed me this:
Hey hon,I was planning on bringing ****(her fiance), is that going to work? I don’t want to have him staying alone at the hotel too much?? Is there a possibility for some more co-ed time??? If not, I think I’ll have him stay back for this one. I would like to hang out with him, too, since it’s his first time in Portland 🙂
I just don’t know what to do with this. I won’t lie, this really hurt me. I haven’t seen this girl in nearly a year, and it’s been at least six months since I have seen the other girls (except for my friend who lives here). I really wanted to spend time with them, but I guess i was asking too much.
I’ve revised the schedule for them: rehersal on Friday at 6PM and be at my house by 2PM Saturday, but I am worried that I am still expecting too much.
What is a reasonable timeline to ask of them? What would you do in my situation? Any advice would be super helpful and appreciated by me! Thanks in advance!