Post # 17
@AntsyA: personally, I would just stop sharing ideas/plans with him.
I know that sounds silly but you are going to do what you want anyway so spare yourself the grief. Thats what I did (and meant) by my comment.
In the beginning my FH would have an opinion and it sucked so I just quit involving him and assigned him tasks.
(God I sound like a total B$tch saying that! LOL.. it sounds worse than it was, I promise)
Post # 18
My fiance only gets involved when he has a negative opinion about something. I recently told him that I do enjoy positive feedback along with the negative…haha!
Post # 19
@krystal.keel and FutureMrsBPB: See that’s actually what its coming to….its almost always negative feed back. Even if he likes it, he’ll pick something out that he doesn’t like. But I’m going to stop involving him because when I telll him….ok then, I’m leaving it on you to figure this one out….he backs up and says he’s fine with my decision. I don’t think it sounds b$tchy….I think with certain guys it may be necessary.
Post # 20
I am FH myself, but having trouble getting involved. I want to help, but she likes what she likes and won’t give me enough freedom to make choices that matter to me.
The only “compromises” she’s made so far involved ideas that she actually liked herself. Not really a compromise then, is it?
I’m probably at the height of frustration and it will likely get better soon, but right now…ugh
Honestly… I think it’s unfair for the bride to have 100% control and assign “tasks” to FH unless he is OK with that. It is very degrading to your FH, I encourage everyone who thinks like that to consider their FH’s feelings… it’s their wedding too 🙂