(Closed) How much is your FH helping with wedding planning?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AntsyA: personally, I would just stop sharing ideas/plans with him.

I know that sounds silly but you are going to do what you want anyway so spare yourself the grief. Thats what I did (and meant) by my comment.

In the beginning my FH would have an opinion and it sucked so I just quit involving him and assigned him tasks.

(God I sound like a total B$tch saying that! LOL.. it sounds worse than it was, I promise)

Post # 18
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My fiance only gets involved when he has a negative opinion about something.  I recently told him that I do enjoy positive feedback along with the negative…haha!

Post # 20
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am FH myself, but having trouble getting involved. I want to help, but she likes what she likes and won’t give me enough freedom to make choices that matter to me.

The only “compromises” she’s made so far involved ideas that she actually liked herself. Not really a compromise then, is it?

I’m probably at the height of frustration and it will likely get better soon, but right now…ugh

Honestly… I think it’s unfair for the bride to have 100% control and assign “tasks” to FH unless he is OK with that. It is very degrading to your FH, I encourage everyone who thinks like that to consider their FH’s feelings… it’s their wedding too 🙂

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