(Closed) How much like your Father is your FI/SO?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Is your FI/SO like your Father?
    So much so it's scary...! : (48 votes)
    23 %
    Kind of.....sometimes : (77 votes)
    38 %
    Nope they are cut from very different cloths : (80 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’ve only had one person tell me that my Fiance looks like my Dad. My Aunt (Dad’s sister) says how Fiance looks is how my Dad looked in his late 20s/early 30s. No one else sees it, but she’s of the mindset that women’s husbands are identical in every way to their Dad.

    Fiance is nothing like my Dad. I mean, they’re both kind and care about me (even through the terrible ups-and-downs my Dad and I have had), but Fiance is much more rational, thinks before he speaks, quite, etc. They’re not so opposite (they like sci-fi, history, etc., but those are common interests of many people), as if they’re from different planets, but they’re not alike in personalities and mannerisms. Who knows, maybe I subconsciously chose someone who was an opposite of my Dad. That wouldn’t surprise me!

    Post # 4
    Member
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 1993

    They can be so similar that sometimes he says he doesn’t like my dad… which is probably because its almost like looking in the mirror.  Thats deep, isn’t it?  🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Actually, Fiance is a lot more like my mom than my dad, which I think is perfect because I am JUST LIKE my dad 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wouldn’t be with my SO if he was anything like my father.  He was an abusive, controlling, manipulative, cheater. 

    Post # 7
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    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    complete opposites.  

    Post # 8
    Member
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I never noticed it at first… in fact I joke and say he hid these qualities from me until I was smitten with him… but I swear every other day now Fiance does something that makes me smack my head and think OMG I AM MARRYING MY FATHER!  haha In a good way of course!  My dad is an amazing man so I’d be blessed to marry someone with his qualities.  It just makes me giggle sometimes.

    Post # 9
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    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Sunshine09:  Uh oh, ever heard of the Oedipus complex?  Freud coined the term but the story stems from greek mythology.  It’s the idea that guys subconsciously want to have sex with their mothers and murder their fathers.  The female’s version of this complex is called the Electra complex.  Freud was a weird dude.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Not at all.  The only trait they share is that they are both very intelligent. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My Fiance shares the best qualities of my dad–is caring, always picks up his phone, a family man, is interested in history and science.  But overall, the way he thinks, responds, and analyzes the world is totally different. On the other hand, I am JUST like FI’s mom and I tell him that all the time 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Polar opposite. My Dad is type A and my Fiance is very chill.

    Post # 13
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    He’s really not much like my dad at all. I mean, sometimes, but it’s more of a man-like way to be rather than Wow he’s so much like my dad!

    Post # 14
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My dad once told me he used to be “just like” my then Fiance and I lol’d at him. I said something like “I’m glad you can relate to him in a positive way” and left it at that. N-O-T-H-I-N-G alike, I promise. I could not.

    Post # 15
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Darling Husband and my dad both have the same career/major and both have similar lifestyles, conservative views. I didn’t actively look for someone like my dad, but it happened!

    Post # 16
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Darling Husband is not like my dad for the most part.  In some ways he is though:  hunting, fishing, working on cars, generally enjoying all outdoor things.  They have similar values, because I have those values (family values, moral values).  They both have good hearts.  Darling Husband has a much more agreeable personality, for the most part and is more patient than my dad and doesn’t yell (in day -to- day life.)

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