Post # 1
I’m curious about something. How much like your father (step-father, whoever the main father figure in your life is) is your SO/FI?
Because I’ll tell you….my Fiance is sometimes so much like my Dad – it’s almost creepy. lol. The sounds he makes, the mannerisms, the behaviour, O.M.G.
Post # 3
I’ve only had one person tell me that my Fiance looks like my Dad. My Aunt (Dad’s sister) says how Fiance looks is how my Dad looked in his late 20s/early 30s. No one else sees it, but she’s of the mindset that women’s husbands are identical in every way to their Dad.
Fiance is nothing like my Dad. I mean, they’re both kind and care about me (even through the terrible ups-and-downs my Dad and I have had), but Fiance is much more rational, thinks before he speaks, quite, etc. They’re not so opposite (they like sci-fi, history, etc., but those are common interests of many people), as if they’re from different planets, but they’re not alike in personalities and mannerisms. Who knows, maybe I subconsciously chose someone who was an opposite of my Dad. That wouldn’t surprise me!
Post # 4
They can be so similar that sometimes he says he doesn’t like my dad… which is probably because its almost like looking in the mirror. Thats deep, isn’t it? 🙂
Post # 5
Actually, Fiance is a lot more like my mom than my dad, which I think is perfect because I am JUST LIKE my dad 🙂
Post # 6
I wouldn’t be with my SO if he was anything like my father. He was an abusive, controlling, manipulative, cheater.
Post # 8
I never noticed it at first… in fact I joke and say he hid these qualities from me until I was smitten with him… but I swear every other day now Fiance does something that makes me smack my head and think OMG I AM MARRYING MY FATHER! haha In a good way of course! My dad is an amazing man so I’d be blessed to marry someone with his qualities. It just makes me giggle sometimes.
Post # 9
@Sunshine09: Uh oh, ever heard of the Oedipus complex? Freud coined the term but the story stems from greek mythology. It’s the idea that guys subconsciously want to have sex with their mothers and murder their fathers. The female’s version of this complex is called the Electra complex. Freud was a weird dude.
Post # 10
Not at all. The only trait they share is that they are both very intelligent.
Post # 11
My Fiance shares the best qualities of my dad–is caring, always picks up his phone, a family man, is interested in history and science. But overall, the way he thinks, responds, and analyzes the world is totally different. On the other hand, I am JUST like FI’s mom and I tell him that all the time 🙂
Post # 12
Polar opposite. My Dad is type A and my Fiance is very chill.
Post # 13
He’s really not much like my dad at all. I mean, sometimes, but it’s more of a man-like way to be rather than Wow he’s so much like my dad!
Post # 14
My dad once told me he used to be “just like” my then Fiance and I lol’d at him. I said something like “I’m glad you can relate to him in a positive way” and left it at that. N-O-T-H-I-N-G alike, I promise. I could not.
Post # 15
DH and my dad both have the same career/major and both have similar lifestyles, conservative views. I didn’t actively look for someone like my dad, but it happened!
Post # 16
DH is not like my dad for the most part. In some ways he is though: hunting, fishing, working on cars, generally enjoying all outdoor things. They have similar values, because I have those values (family values, moral values). They both have good hearts. DH has a much more agreeable personality, for the most part and is more patient than my dad and doesn’t yell (in day -to- day life.)