- 4 years ago
“In your SO’s eyes, you’re trapped with him, yet he still has the option of leaving. There’s no incentive left for him to marry you.”
If you ask people who have been divorced what the most difficult elements of the divorce process were, it is 1) splitting up the marital assets/dealing with an owned home and 2) who gets the kids, shared custody, and parental rights.
Literally the “worst” portions of commitment he’s ALREADY signed up for. The difference is, right now he gets all the perks of someone living with him as a spouse and raising his children for him and helping on a mortgage while he is still not officially tied down. He thinks there is zero risk of you running away or leaving him. But he still has given himself the option that if he decides he’s found a hot piece of (_|_) or gets bored with you, he can leave you.
You had two of his children and bought a home together. If he wanted to marry you, he would have.