(Closed) How much longer til engagement season is over?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
8602 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

thats no attitude for missoptimism!!! Your time will come! Keep your head up!

Post # 4
512 posts
Busy bee

Yep yep. V-day and we’ll be done! I understand. All my friends are engaged or married with the exception of the very young ones (17-19), and actually two of those were married last year. So I don’t deal with it anymore. But last spring/summer there was a slew of engagements and me and my SO had entered ‘the waiting period’. It was hard. 

For me its been bittersweet. I am SO thrilled for them. But not like how I used to be thrilled for my friends before I started waiting a year ago. Before waiting I was permenantly elated and on air for my friends. I knew I was not ready for that stage in my life. After the waiting started, I still feel thrilled but also think those typical envious or jealous thoughts. Then I feel guilty on top of that for not being purely happy for them.

Now though its going back to how it used to be. Not bittersweet, just sweet and happy. I became better at not comparing my relationship to others and being thankful for the things I have that I was taking for granted. Personally I was focusing too much on a lack of one thing and I couldn’t appreciate the many things I had that were awesome. 

Strength and shoulders to cry on for you though! You can make it through, just a month and a few days!

Post # 5
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@missoptimism:  Engagement season is whenever you want it to be! I know a lot of people think that the time between Christmas and Valentine’s day is the only time to get engaged. My Fiance proposed at the beginning of October to purposely stay away from the so called season! He wanted it to be a day uniquely special to us and not caught up in the sea of other engagements.

Stay positive and everything will come in due time. Looking forward to seeing your engagement announcement here soon 🙂

Post # 6
1347 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not waiting. Been married for over three years in fact. Does your BF know you want to get married? Sitting around playing house wasn’t going to work for me. I was very upfront with my husband that if we were going to be together (madly in love) then I needed a commitment ie marriage. It wasnt a tough sell. Do you know if he has a ring already and just dragging his feet asking you? Or is he just not ready at all?

Post # 8
224 posts
Helper bee

My mum always told me that guys are sheep, once one of them proposes the others tend to follow. And this has been true of friends of ours so far, so I am normally hoping someone will get engaged in the hopes it will give SO a nudge! Unfortunately its been baby announcements these past few months, that’s no good to me! (But very exciting all the same) x

Post # 10
224 posts
Helper bee

@missoptimism:  Haha thank you! We have a few weddings to attend this year so fingers crossed that’s all it will take! Maybe you should consider a career in matchmaking? Wink x

Post # 11
322 posts
Helper bee

When I first joined I was waiting for my Fiance to propose, so I know how you feel …The wait sucks, it willl happen for you and when it does it will be great!..good luck!!!




Post # 12
59 posts
Worker bee

A lot of my friends got engaged… and my BF tries to justify it by saying well it’s their “first” wedding… this will be our second…

meanwhile they haven’t been together nearly as long as we have…. we bought a house together…. between the two of us we have three kids… I have been ready for the past year to get engaged…. he finally is coming around and he asked.. without a ring mind you.  We are in the process of having my ring made now.  Just realx… it can be very frustrating though… just hang in there.  Is getting engaged and married an open line of communication between the two of you???

Post # 14
4556 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

ugh I feel you!! I’ve been with my bf for 4.5 years and I HATE seeing people who have been together like a year get engaged and I’m just over here like fml. My bestfriend is getting married and my bf is one of the groomsmen and he has told me multiple times that he is sorry I’m not the first one engaged and he’s sorry he hasn’t married me yet. I know it’s coming sometime this year so I’m trying to be patient. Key word TRYING!! I also work with 3 girls that are all atleast 2 years younger than me and the 3 of them combined haven’t even been together for 2 years, so less than half of me and my SO. And they all plan their wedding at work. It’s so aggravating because we already know our wedding date and everything, I just don’t have a damn ring!

Post # 15
259 posts
Helper bee

This week is probably the first time I’ve felt jealous.  Pretty much all of our friends are married aside from the bachelors and 1 couple who said they would never get married.  This couple has decided they are going to get married! I am absolutely ecstatic for them, but it has also just made me feel a little sad and jealous.  

Just a few weeks ago my boyfriend was bringing up marriage (without me starting the conversation haha) and how he definitely is ready for it, so I started getting excited.  However, last night he starts telling me how this friend, who is getting married, isn’t actually excited about it, but rather his girlfriend pretty much told him to get her a ring or get out,  He is getting her the ring because he loves her, he just thought they both agreed that they didnt want to get married.  Well, now my boyfriend’s mood has changed.  He started telling me that he won’t let us go all the way to being a common law couple, but that we aren’t rushing things either and it’ll happen at some point.  It really sounded like he was having doubts about marriage all together, but didn’t want to admit it since he had already told me he was ready.    

We have been together for just over 3 years, so I’m okay with waiting longer.  I just wish he wouldn’t have said he was ready if he really wasn’t… and I certainly hope he would tell me if he has completely changed his mind or is having doubts.  

So yes, I am ready for engagement season to be over too haha.  

Post # 16
413 posts
Helper bee

I am waiting for this weekend and engagement season to be over. I know I am not getting my ring by valentines day since he already told me June. At this point, I no longer mind everyone else getting engaged more because everyone has already gotten married. I do mind thesnide comments   and side eye from some hateful ladies I work with but I keep thinking this waiting period will be over soon! **fingers crossed**

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