(Closed) How much longer?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@dynamic_duo: Do you know why he took so long?  Obviously when you confronted him he proposed, so what was he waiting for and for an entire year?  

Just curious 🙂 

Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper

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@tiny tuna: not sure. i think part of it was waiting for the ring to come in.  like we went looking at rings together at the end of august 2008.  Actually, we looked at rings on vacation in august 2008 in Maine. So, he could only get the ring i wanted in the states as we are from Canada.  So it would require a trip to at least Plattsburgh to get it. And he is a very poor planner and huge procrastinator.  Also, we had talked about getting married after his PhD was done, so since he was then starting to apply for internships, which would be the last year of his PhD, he had some time.  

so then some months went by, he ended up applying for an internship in Maine and getting it!  he started working there July 2009.  but we had went to visit the site a few months earlier in Feb. 2009 and i think he ordered the ring then as he went to Jared and got a line of credit for the store! he also came out with gift bag and gave me a heart shaped neckalce for valentines day and said it was the “prequel” to the ring (the diamond i had chosen was heart shaped).   So THEN in July after he started working, his parents were visiting and he took them to Jareds to check on the status of his order and show his parents the ring.  He found out his order was not placed and they no longer carried the ring!  he was pissed and had to tell me. i told him i had just seen the same ring at Kays!  so finally i guess he went to kays, and when i came to visit for my bday in August 2009, he proposed!  It just so happend that on the day he proposed, i got a little pushy…..but he had already been planning the proposal for several weeks!

so i didn’t really “confront” him, there had just been some delays and a long process to get the ring.  plus i think he must have decided to plan the proposal on my birthday weekend.  but all in all, it was about a year from the first day we went shopping till when i actually had it on my finger!  which i didnt mind, any longer and i might have started to get restless.

wow, long answer to a short question!  no one ever asked me before, LOL.

Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper

oops, double post

Post # 19
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Helper bee

We went ring shopping last month. He ordered the ring around March 12-13-14….  I’m still waiting.

I really have to control myself, and keep focused on what’s important, my relationship, my job, my kid, my pets etc.  Thank goodness I can come here on WB to read and share.  Keeps me occupied and hopeful that it is coming. I don’t talk to him about it because I want it to be special for him too, and if I keep asking or talking about it, it won’t have the effect he’s (and I’m) looking for.

I don’t think you’re being silly at all.  But being patient will pay off.  Sounds like your SO is going to make it special 🙂  I guess it’s special for us, but it is a big even for them too!  

 

Post # 20
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Worker bee

I am in the same position!! I know that he bought the ring and I am waiting.. lets go lets go lol I am trying to be patient but its killing me..

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We went ring shopping about 7 months ago. I thought it would happen right after that and would get excited at every weekend and every special occasion. Now I highly doubt he even bought the ring yet.  It gets very frustrating waiting so long. Ring shopping was such a tease! I felt like he had changed his mind about it too. But I asked him if he’s thinking/planning it and he said yes – so I’m trusting it will happen sooner rather than later. I think he’s taking so long because of money – he had to buy a car and is now getting back on track with his finances. I also think he’s taking so long because he wants to make it a surprise.  

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@dynamic_duo: Wow, I’m really sorry to hear about all the issues he went through.  That must have set him back a lot, and how unprofessional that the ring order had not been placed for him at the store then was discontinued. 

I’m glad you got your dream ring and proposal 🙂 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We never went ring shopping and we wont be going together at all. So in my case dont think I will know when he even has it, even though we live together and he will have to make up an excuse to get to the ring and buy it… like saying he is going out with his bro for a nit or something like that… or maybe when I am out but sorry I couldnt help you …

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