How much money do you give as a wedding present?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much money to give for a wedding gift to good friends?
    $0-50 : (21 votes)
    9 %
    $50-75 : (29 votes)
    13 %
    $75-100 : (50 votes)
    22 %
    $100-150 : (57 votes)
    25 %
    $150-200 : (34 votes)
    15 %
    $200+ : (35 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My general rule of thumb…

    • Acquaintances/Co-workers/Pity invites (for when you know they were forced to invite you): $50 p/person attending ($100 total)
    • Close friends: $75-$100 p/person attending ($150-$200 total)
    • Close family: $150 p/person attending ($300 total)

    Post # 5
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We haven’t ever given cash as a wedding gift, usually just pick something off the registry.  We had been doing around $50 but after our wedding it seems like $100 is pretty common, so we might do that next time if it’s someone we are pretty close too. 

    Post # 6
    4109 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    $50 to $75 for a friend, more for close friends and family. I don’t agree with the whole ‘covering your plate’ thing. If you invite me as a guest & I have no say in how expensive my meal is (plus how do you even know this unless you ask? Which for some people, can be considered rude), why should I pay for my own meal? When invited to a dinner party, I bring a side, desert, or bottle of wine- not a check to cover my meal. A recent wedding we went to (semi close friends I guess), the price per head was $150. Did they really expect a check for $300 PLUS a gift? Probbly not, and if they did I would just have rathered stay home & send a gift. I find that rediculous.

    Post # 7
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @CaptainSpaulding:  Yeah I never understood that either.  To me the amount I give is based primarily on how much money I have at the time and how close I am to the person. 

    Post # 8
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @UpstateCait:  yeah pretty much what we used as general guide.

    Also, we will take into account if it’s a Destination Wedding.  If I am flying in for your wedding, plus air ticket + hotel stay….I will be giving only $50 unless you are family. 


    Post # 9
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My Fiance and I are graduate students, too, and we always give a nice card and 50 in cash to our friends.

    we’re young and it feels like we have a wedding to go to every other weekend…. lol.

    Post # 10
    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve never given money, I always buy off the registry.  I usually try to find things that I can afford but might be less likely for another guest to buy (I try not to buy the really popular stuff since I know they’ll get most of that stuff).

    Post # 11
    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think it depends on where you live too. For me in NYC, around $100-150 seems to be a common number.

    Post # 12
    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @UpstateCait:  pretty much agree with this general guide, though I haven’t yet had a family member get married.   

    Post # 13
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My general rule is you should give enough to pay for your plate. Not because you should pay to be fed at a wedding but because I think its a nice gesture to try and help the couple break even. Weddings are expensive and a lot of money is spent not just for them on their big day but to make their guests happy as well. However I am a mother of two with not a huge household income so if someone has an over the top wedding with very high prices for plates, I don’t believe the guests should have to give lavish amounts because of the couples personal choice to be extravagent. So I dont have money for the insanely high plate costs. On general rule I believe people should give $50 a person. If its a close friend or family member, then anywhere from $75-$100 a person.

    Post # 14
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    In the past, I gave $50 for weddings I attended alone and $100 if a date came.  The last wedding I went to I gave $150 and find came with me.  I was the maid of honor and had also paid for 1/4 of her shower, plus $250 in shower gifts.  Take into account what you spent on a shower gift as well.  I think as a couple going, 75-100 sounds reasonable.

    Post # 15
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    we never give less than $100. if its a close, close friend or family member, probably around $200

    Post # 16
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Good lord… don’t go looking on TK New Jersey forums for the answer.  They made me feel so cheap with answers in the $300-400 as a regular amount!

    Anyway, I try to base it on how we’re doing financially at the time, how much we had to spend on accomodations/travel, and how close we are to the couple.  So $100-150 range is my vote.

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