Post # 1
Wedding guest-newbie here. I am struggling coming up with a quantity to gift the couple whose wedding we’ll be attending. DH and I are by no means rich (he is a struggling teacher and I have a scholarship to help me pay the bills) but we want to be able to gift a thoughtful quantity. I asked my mom how much is “appropiate” and she suggested something along the lines of 150 dollars (which, exchanged to our currency is like 3000 mxn). I personally thought it was too much money! And DH suggested we gave them around 75 dlls (exchange, 1500 mxn), but I fear we might come out as cheap or mean. We are not super close with this couple (hang out once every two months), but DH used to be really close to the guy and has been asked to be his legal witness (however, DH was not invited to any bachelor party and neither was I invited to a bachelorette -again, not that close).
I guess I am asking, would it be appropiate to just gift 100 dlls (exchange around 2000 mxn), or would we look too cheap?
Post # 2
Give what you can afford without compromising your own financial circumstances.
I’d go with 75 dollars or less.
Post # 3
If the couple thinks you are cheap then they are ungrateful brats. Give what you can comfortably afford, whether that be $25 or $200. So if you feel $100 is what you can afford to give then that is a great gift.
Post # 4
Give what you can afford. We’ve given varying amounts based on what we can afford and how close we are to the couple. I got wedding gifts ranging from $20 to thousands. People gave what they wanted and what they could afford and I was grateful to all of them, not just the ones who gave more as I’m not entitled to a gift at all so any amount is generous.
Post # 5
depends on your situation- we had some couples gift $AU40 and one couple gave $AU300 (so overwhelming!), and bboth sets of parents gifted too much cause we didn’t let them contribute to the wedding expenses.
To be honest, we didn’t expect anything from some guests, as we know they had been through some rough times. My Maid/Matron of Honor and her DH gave us $40 and I burst into tears as that was HUGE for them at the time (and I didn’t feel like we ‘deserved’ that).
If $75 is what you can afford, then gift that. There is no ‘right’ amount, and the couple getting married should appreciate the gift, no matter the amount- I know we did!
Post # 6
Gift what you can afford, you don’t want to strain your budget.
The last wedding we went to we gifted $100. Would have liked to gift more, but as we have our wedding very soon, we just couldn’t afford it,
Post # 7
I’m guessing MXN=Mexico dollars or pesos (let me know if I’m wrong)? Either way you should gift what you feel comfortable with. I went to a friend’s wedding and gifted $100 ( combined between acouple others) last summer. My last cousins wedding I went to I was younger and purchased something nice for her living room ($20ish), I’ll be going to a reception only party this spring and I’ll probably be gifting $25 (a nice living room item even though they have no registry). My sister is getting married this summer and I’ll help and shower her with items (it’ll be a destination wedding. So whatever in addition I can afford). No rules. It comes down to what the situation is and what you can afford.
Post # 8
I’ve always been told you try to cover the cost of what they paid for you as a guest for dinner. So, if the reception is at a fancy place that’s about $75/plate, I try to give $150+ for us as a couple. It’s not a necessity- pay what you can, of course, but I always aim to cover at least the cost of the dinner.
Post # 9
I agree without everyone else, give what you can afford! They should be thankful regardless of the amount.
Post # 10
The appropriate amount is what you are financially able and willing to give. They aren’t a charity fundraiser, you don’t need to “buy/cover your plate”. It also depends on your relationship with them. Some weddings, $10 or the equivalent cheapest item on the registry is all i could afford to give and even that meant eating ramen for a week until payday. Other weddings I’ve given $100+ or the equivalent in a registry item. There is no one right answer and it very much depends on the circumstances at the time.
Post # 11
We give $250-$300 depending on how close we are to the couple. So it’s between $125-$150 per person.
Post # 12
Give what you can afford.
I do think this is also a regional thing, where I live most guests gifted us between $20-50. Some did more and some did less. I couldn’t tell you what we got from anyone as far as a cash gift.
Post # 13
I was taught that when providing a cash gift, try to cover the cost of your plate. There’s a bit of guesswork involded with that but usually results in a $120 to $200 gift. I think that may be a regional thing. Ultimately, you should gift what you can afford. Im sure it’ll be appreciated in any case.
Post # 14
Put in what you think you can afford. We got anywhere from $20 on up in cash gifts.
Post # 15
Give what you can afford and a nice card!
I got numerous cards from friends’ of my Mom- who couldn’t even attend the wedding, that were so lovely and kind.