(Closed) How much money would you give in this situation?

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is sort of what we did. We had a weddingmoon in Jamaica, and had a “reception” a week later. We had about 35 guests, and we got gifts anywhere from $25 to $500, with the average being about $50. We live in the midwest, apparently it’s higher in the NE.

Post # 4
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Did you send her a gift when she eloped last year?


Gift what you can afford and feel comfortable with.  It’s hard for us Bees to advise how much to give because we don’t know what your financial situation is or what you believe is an appropriate amount.


Based on my situation, I usually gift $50-100 for weddings because it’s a big chunk out of my paycheck but I can afford to give it.  However, I know there are people on here who say that is not enough.


Post # 6
3229 posts
Sugar bee

For my wedding, my monetary gifts ranged from $40-$100 not including his grandfather’s that is on its way. I think I would give $40 in your case.

Post # 7
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d give whatever you normally give. Giving cash is the norm here generally at least $75pp. I wouldn’t give less just bc you’re not super close since she’s family. 

Post # 9
589 posts
Busy bee

I would also say that how much you give depends on your situation.  If it were me, I would probably give about $100 for an informal reception.

Post # 10
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@Tatum:  I give between $150 to $500 depending on how close I am to the couple, whether or not I actually like them, and what their wedding consists of. It makes my skin crawl when people actually ask for money, so in this case I agree with your *cheap* husband and would give nothing. I wouldn’t even go. However, I am quite adamant about this issue. I just find it so rude and distasteful. Everyone knows people prefer money – don’t ask for it for god sake.

Post # 11
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I think $50, particularly in this situation, would be appropriate. The week after their elopement, I may have done $100, but for a super casual get together a year after… I think $50 is perfectly generous. 

Post # 12
126 posts
Blushing bee


Post # 13
2226 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think 75-100$ per guest attending is a reasonable gift unless you can’t afford it. At the end of the day the wedding’s probably costing somwhere close to that in total unless it’s really informal.

Post # 14
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think 75 since its just an informal party after the fact

Post # 16
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d give $100 from both of you. 

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