Post # 1
How much more can i take. I’m already past the breaking point. So last week a bridemaid just decided out of blue that she is going to get married and have her date on my shower. Note she is not even engaged yet and her parents have told her to wait longer and she refuses too. I told her no that was is so selfish and hurtfull to me, and she said she didnt care she had to do what was best for her and didnt see why i was making a big deal about it. Helooo we have the same friends which are now going to have to choose between my shower and your wedding. Why ruin my plans of a year and a half with something you decided to slape togather out of the blue and no her egoo is not preggo so what the crap. Ok well she decides to change her date agian and since we have been at eachother i told her i thought of our frienship more important then the two weddings and if she feels to overwhelmed by being in my wedding and planning a big wedding for herself in too month she can drop. Yes she think she can plan a huge wedding and two months while working and going to college. Well she did and thats fine my cousin offered to step in and replace.
Well then last night ex bridesmaid brother who is my photoghraper messaged me and said if i dont get back to him he will drop my wedding. I told him i was shocked since we had planned this for over a year. Now keep in mind he dosnt approve of his sister getting married iether so that is not his excuse. He gets an attitude and says well photography is my hobby not my job and i do not have to do wedding or engagments and have lost interest in the project. Well i was paying him good money you would think he would just do it for the money. So i told him to go ahead and keep those dates open i will find someone who does photography as a job and passion no hard feelings. So it 2 months to the wedding and i have no photographer. I litterly ballied for two hours last night. I dont understand why all this crap keeps happening to my wedding. Has anyone else had this much dramma .
Then to top it off ex bridemaid keeps forgetting the dress so that my cousin can have it fittied im so sick of her and her family ugggg.
I’ve had to fight with bridemaids about dresses and shoes
Fight for the cake we wanted with strawberry filling
Fight for napkins that are pink and green
Here how my colors of Fushia pink and lime green are ugly by my family
Been told what the ceremony looks like is none of my buisness
Settle for a band when we wanted a DJ.
Fight over flowers.
Now i have to fight for the photographer i want because my aunt and uncle refuse to pay more then 500 for pics. Well as all of you know thats imposible to find.
Thank God the groom is prince charming and helps me handle these things in stride.
So is 1000 to much for a photographer? Help !!!!
Post # 3
I am sorry you are having all of this drama.
No, $1,0000 is not too much for a photographer. It just depends on what you are getting in the photography package. Depending on where you live, photography can be and is much higher.
Post # 4
I’m paying more than $1000 for my photographer, and I think that I am getting an awesome deal. Most photographers that I looked into were a lot more expensive. So I don’t think that $1000 for a photographer is too much.
Post # 5
I paid $1700 for my photographer and that was a really good deal (which did not even include album). I don’t think you are going to find a professional for much less than that…Sometimes there are amateur/student photographers that post in the classifieds here or on craiglist that would be willing to do it for free just for the experience.
Post # 6
Hi there – I don’t think that $1,000 is too much for a photographer, but it all depends on your budget. Can you afford a photographer for $1,000? I think it’s a reasonable price based on the average, but it has to be the right price for you.
I hope things look up for you. Just keep your eye on the prize! Your wonderful soon to be husband as well as a beautiful wedding!
Post # 7
I can offord it myself but my family is making me feel like a brat about it they told me to gett off my hight horse. Oh and i just got off the phone and Aunt and Uncle ant paying nothing now. I love people who break promises. I jsut want to cry.
Post # 8
I think I paid $1500 for my photographer, but I got an excellent deal b/c she was a long time friend from way long ago.
I’m sorry your stressing so bad. I know it sounds so cliche’, but after the wedding, the little things won’t matter. I found out two nights before the wedding the Bridesmaid or Best Man (brother of DH) was going to wear a purple shirt (my wedding color) to surprise me. I was LIVID…I am a total Type A control freak and the idea of someone making a decision like that for my wedding drove me nuts. Thankfully, I didn’t say anything to him and didn’t torment my Darling Husband…too bad. Now, I could careless what color his shirt was or how the little details of my reception turned out. Just try to focus your time and energy on finding a photographer b/c that is super important and try not to let the rest get to you…I know, easier said that done 🙂
Post # 9
*HUGS* I am so sorry that you are going through a lot right now. I hope things will turn out better.
Paying $1000 is definitely not a lot. I am paying $2000 for mine (including the album) and that’s actually a good deal in my area. The photographer is a friend so he lowered his price for me. I know that it’s almost too impossible to find a photographer for $500 but have you tried a student photographer? Maybe somebody that’s just starting up and might want to use your wedding for his portfolio?
Good luck, dear! 🙂
Post # 10
I am sorry for all the drama, I often wish someone could have warned me how dramatic planning a wedding could be. In the end, it is your wedding filled with your decisions. Input is appreciated, but in many cases does not have to be followed (there are always exceptions though!) and I think you just need to remind yourself of that. I just got back from a week of vacation with my FBIL/FSIL and I can’t tell you how many times I heard that spending more than 4k on a wedding was ridiculous (because their friends in a rural area had a daughter do just that) and how they hoped their sons didn’t end up with a girl who thought she needed a 10k+ wedding. Uncomfortable! Smile, take a deep breath, take a break if need be. There will be better days!
Post # 11
The problem is im really picky with photography I love it and want my weddign photos to be grreat. This is my number one chosice but i know she is too exspensive http://mcolemanphotography.com/
But the cool thing is that i found this girl and she actually studied under michelle and she said she would do it for under 1000
Is it worth it i mean look at the photo quality.
Post # 12
Hmmm….does she have a physical portfolio you can look at?
I’m so sorry all this is happening honey. It totally blows. (((HUGS)))
But the good news is that your partner is proving to be a wonderful man who will stick by you….so you have the comfort of knowing that you’re right to be marrying him.
Post # 13
I’m so, so sorry hun 🙁 This is awful. But, you’ll get through it! We all do 🙂 Just keep venting to the hive, ’cause it totally helps!
And about the photographer, umm … we paud $5K for ours 🙂 But all the ones we looked at were well over $1,000. I would think anything under $2,000 is a deal. When your family asks about it, simply say, “The photos are the one thing that will live on forever after the wedding, and I think it’s worth the investment, and I’d rather not talk about it further if you’ll continue to disagree.”
Post # 14
thanks guys for all the incouragment i have really needed it