(Closed) how much % of guests you invited gifted you?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

We had 188 attend our wedding. Maybe ten people (five couples) did not give a gift, or even a card. I expected nothing from our wedding party, though some did give gifts. I remember who did not give us gifts. Maybe that makes me seem petty, but I could rattle off their names right now if I had to. It’s really fine, didn’t bother me so much as it kind of surprised me, as I’ve never gone to a wedding and not given a gift. 

Post # 32
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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oneinamillion :  from your update.. are you watching your registry worried people aren’t buying things off of it and sulking?

Cus um.. aside from the fact that’d be kinda gross (I’m sure I misread, the post was so strangely worded surely that’s what it is…) isn’t your wedding like super far off? I thought you were still planning engagement parties and bridal showers and Jack n Jill’s and so forth? I’d say most of my guests purchased gifts in the last week or two before the wedding.. I was sending thank you cards as gifts arrived but I still ended up doing the majority of the cards post honeymoon.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

The only one I noticed was a couple we had given £200 ($270) the year before as per their request for honeymoon donations and they didn’t give us a gift. Plus travel to their wedding and a £300 hen weekend when she didn’t come to mine. I don’t care if it’s petty that it pissed me off. 

Embarrassingly a gift arrived from D.H’s distant relative, whom I’d never met and we hadn’t invited, that was a piece of furniture costing about £1000. Very awkward.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

I only remember specifically because it was 1 couple (out of 145). They were young and travelled to get there so I definitely wasn’t worried about it! Oh also my parents didn’t get me a(nother) gift – my wedding was the gift. 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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weddingmaven :  I didn’t say it was, i’m not asking for views from the etiquette police.  I said it is nice to receive as I hold on to all my cards and love going back to look at them. All my wedding cards are in a memory box to look back on one day. I am in Australia and it is pretty common to give cards with every gift even if you attend in person. 

Post # 36
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Honey Beekeeper

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bubbycakes :  You said, “three couples gave nothing, not even a card.” That implies that you think a card is the minimum that is expected. Seems to me that you’re the one that thought there was a breach of etiquette. 

I agree with you that it’s common to include a card with a gift, but a card without a gift is not obligatory, and in my experience not even all that common. The people who don’t give gifts right away or at all don’t seem to want to call attention to the fact. 

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I guess like 90% of attending guests gave us a gift? We didn’t have a registry or anything. Maybe you should stop monitoring your registry so much, you seem a bit focused on the gifts? I don’t think anyone who RSVPd ‘no’ sent a gift, but I wouldn’t expect them to, and some sent cards. One couple we didn’t even invite gave us a gift which was lovely but I felt a little awkward! 

Post # 39
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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oneinamillion :  I think you misunderstood my post. I definitely mixed you up with another bee, so I’m sorry about that, but my post really wasn’t about whether you’re having other wedding related parties.. it was about not judging your guests and/or being upset about how many gifts have been purchased before your wedding has even happened.

Post # 40
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Worker bee

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oneinamillion :  I don’t want to jump the gun on this but I honestly don’t understand the purpose of this question, are you trying to preemtively estimate how much you will “earn” from your wedding? Is that way off base. I’m confused.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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oneinamillion :  I think about 90% of people gave us a gift, including.some friends who I definitely didn’t expect to as finances are tight for them.  We didnt register or have a wishing well or anything (personally I don’t think gifts should be mentioned at all) but most have cash.

The thing that annoyed me was 50% of people who didnt give a gift have mentioned multiple times that they left it somewhere and will give it to us but not one did.  I don’t mind not getting a gift, but don’t mention it multiple times without following through, it’s just awkward.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

o%

 

We had a destination cruise wedding so did not get any gifts

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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oneinamillion :  ugh, unfortunate typo and I can’t edit.  Most GAVE cash, not most HAVE cash haha.

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