(Closed) How much of your past (photos with exes, etc do you keep)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nothing online is tied to anyone but current DH. I do have photos of my children’s dad (My first husband) because we were together for 16 years and I want to have them for my children. They are in the attic.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 63
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My ex and i ended on really bad terms (he had a double life) so i burned everything, a little extreme, but very much needed for my sake. 

 

P.S.i’m a happy married women now to an amazing man Kiss

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee

I have nothing from exes. I had a guitar from my first love but I sold it four years ago which was 5 years into my current relationship.

Post # 65
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7369 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Photos and one ring that i never wear. I dont see the point to attempt to “erase” the past by deleting pics. My feelings have moved thats enough.

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Choreographer82:  My personal opinion is that I will keep the memories, but I am comitting my life to my fiancee and I don’t need to hold on to physical reminders of any other romantic relationships. 

 
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My view exacly. It’s not about ‘erasing’ the past, it’s about letting the past go in order to focus on the future with your spouse.

Post # 67
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I keep absolutely nothing. I am just not a sentimental person. At all. I have approximately three mementos from my current relationship with my finace and we’ve been together for five months! My Fiance is a little more sentimental and up until about two years into our relationship he had a box in his garage with some stuff his ex girlfriend of three years (and his first love) had given him. It never bothered me that he had it because I knew he just kept it becuase of the meaning those objects USED to have (sometimes value fades slowly, it doesnt dissapear all at once!).

 

Still though, when he got rid of it I knew it was because I had eclipsed her for good in his heart. I think it would have bothered me if he had kept it and we got engaged, but only because I don’t keep ANYTHING. Maybe if I were also sentimental I would be ok with it.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

None. I can’t think of a reason I would want to. I have some pictures I’m tagged in on FB from prom/homecoming dates in high school but that was years ago and most of those guys are now also engaged.

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I have a box of random stuff from all of my exes at my Dad’s, but I don’t get into it too often. I don’t see anything wrong with keeping it as long as my Fiance knows about it (if it were ever in the house.)

Post # 70
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Helper bee

I have photos and a few gifts, but that’s it. They were all people I cared about and I’d feel strange pretending that didn’t happen.

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a beautiful wooden box at my mother’s house that has a lot of paraphernalia from my first serious relationship. The box itself was a gift from my ex, it’s hand-painted with a kind of fairyland landscape of a raven-haired princess and a blond-haired princess (representing the two of us). Within it are anniversary cards, some photos, letters, candles from my 21st birthday cake (which he celebrated with me). He was a big part of a formative time in my life and I’ll always consider him to be one of the loves of my life. Having said that, I am planning to leave that box at my parents’ house, no way would I bring it into the home I share with my husb-to-be. I’ve also kept some jewellery from exes, but don’t really feel the sentimentality is there anymore.

One of my exes kept nude photos of his ex on his computer. Granted he is a photojournalist, and they were ‘artistic’, but I still almost vomited when I saw them. Fiance has one or two photos of his ex in a drawer somewhere, but they are photos with him in them – at his college graduation I think.

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve kept the last letter my ex wrote me. I deleted some photos from my computer but there wasn’t much to delete. We may still be tagged together in some Facebook photos but there are very few photos of us just us.

When my Fiance and I first started dating, sometimes stuff from his previous relationship would pop up – a photo tucked in an old wallet, a note between the pages of a book. It didn’t really bother me. He’s still friends with her on Facebook, although they haven’t spoken in years. I would never ask him to purge every trace of her from his life.

Facebook used to keep trying to convince me to friend his ex. Apparently Facebook loves the drama!

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I got rid of the obvious stuff and most of the photos, only because I don’t have any need for it anymore. I still have the odd photo that pops up every once in a while and I just tend to get rid of most of it. Fiance doesn’t have anything from his exs.

Post # 74
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh I can’t stand my exes, I wouldn’t even dedicate a friggin’ nasty shoebox to them.  So no, I don’t have jack shit.  And I don’t think my husband does of his ex, but our families I think have pictures, and I am okay with that.

Post # 75
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have NOTHING from exes #2 and #3, but there a BUNCH of pics from ex #1, since we were HS sweethears and together for 5 years!

Fiance has TONS of pics of ALL his exes, but he’s a total shutterbug and most of them are group shots! I still hate them, but they’re reasonable.

Post # 76
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have some stuff. I don’t have, like, pictures of any exes and I hanging up in the house or wear my old wedding band. I do have a box that has some stuff from my prior marriage. I put an album of wedding photos and a few other things in it and haven’t touched it in a few years. I didn’t want to pitch it, but dont really know what to do with it.

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