(Closed) How much (or little) input did you get from your FI?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How much input did you take from your FI when choosing the wedding dress?
    A lot. He shopped with me, and ultimately, we both agreed on a dress. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Somewhat. He "approved" the general design but I ultimately made a decision. : (9 votes)
    11 %
    Very little. I took note of what he had to say, but the decision was all me. : (20 votes)
    25 %
    None. He'll see it on the aisle for the first time! : (46 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I know the style of dress my FH likes on me so I took that into consideration but he will see my dress for the first time when I walk down the aisle. He only knows it’s white.

    Post # 4
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

    I took his input into account, but didn’t go so far as to ask him what he wanted.  All he requested was that the dress have a "sexy low back."  I kept that in mind when looking for dresses, but wouldn’t have vetoed a dress I loved because it didn’t have a low back.

    Post # 5
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Well, I’d say very little to none.  He has no clue what it looks like.  The only thing I knew was that he felt that if I got a strapless dress, he doesn’t like a sweetheart neckline.  Otherwise, everything’s a surprise, and he said very little about what he’d like…well he did suggest that I could just wear lingerie, but…

    Post # 6
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband didn’t have a say and didn’t really want one.  Don’t forget you really need to go in and try on dresses before really knowing what you like.  I’m sure you have heard it a million times but I felt that dresses looked so much different on my body than the stick figure models in magazines so it was hard to really say what I liked in magazines.

    Post # 7
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    ZERO!  I tried getting his opinion but he really does not want anything to do with dress.

    Post # 8
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I showed him some pictures of gowns that I liked… he kinda nixed all looks that were more modern and did not look princessy. It is our day… and I want him to see me at my best… in something I love, as well as being everything he could have imagined! So yeah, I def wanted to know his thoughts!

    Post # 9
    368 posts
    Helper bee

    I wanted to tell Fiance all about my dress – but he wasn’t having it. He was real honest when he said, "I probably won’t even notice details about your dress right away – I’m just going to see YOU and how amazingly beautiful you look!" so I gave up trying to talk to him about beading/this or lace/that. 🙂 In fact, he refuses to even look at pictures of dresses I DIDN’T get because he wants to be surprised seeing me in a georgeous white dress for the first time!!

    Post # 10
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Given that my fiancee is also wearing a dress, we pretty much had to shop together so our dresses would be complementary.

    Post # 11
    997 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

    My fiance has absolutely no input (in that I’m taking into major account what I think he will like, but I’m not asking him) – I want it to be a surprise!

    Post # 12
    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch

    none, I think the only words he said was " I know you’ll look dreamy as always" that’s it. I’m making it so it will be a surprice for him 🙂

    Post # 13
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    He hasn’t seen my dress, but he definitely told me his style preferences. He liked strapless and form fitting. And you know what…so did I! So he gets what he wants, lucky guy. I’m going to purchase a dress for the reception, and he’s not sure he wants to see that one before the wedding day either. It’s been kind of hard not showing him my dress. I value his opinion so much and I really want to know what he thinks. Honestly, though, I know that he’ll cry when he sees me in it. He tears up whenever I get dressed up all fancy-shmancy.

    Post # 14
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    When I first mentioned wearing a short, vintage style dress, he loved the idea. So I kept that in mind when I shopped but I tried on a lot of long dresses too. Ended up, because I’m short, a shorter dress looked best on me. So I ended up with a tea length strapless dress. He hasn’t seen it, but I’ve told him the basics and he seems excited.

    Post # 15
    31 posts
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I had the same issue about lace with my fiance that you are having. When I first began the hunt and really had no idea what I wanted I showed him pictures of dresses that I had tried on. But I did not let him know what I was leaning towards. I really love the look of lace and that’s what I really wanted. When I showed him a picture of a lace dress he said it looked like "something his Grandma would wear" or "it looks like lingerie" (don’t get me started on how those two things do not even relate lol!). That crushed me a little bit because I love the look of lace on a wedding dree. But let’s face it…some guys can be a little clueless, or they really just don’t care about the little details.

    After that experience I stopped telling him anything about dresses that I tried on. He knows nothing about the dress that I ended up getting and he won’t see it until our big day. Needless to say, I stayed away from the lace…it’s not just my day, it’s his day too. And I want to look as stunning as possible in his eyes.

    Post # 16
    636 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband had no input on my dress.  He didn’t want to know a thing about it.  He took the whole element of surprise/bad luck to see the dress thing to an extreme.  He freaked when I showed him the swatch of the satin from the dress shop, haha.


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