Post # 1
I’m curious to know if any other May 2012 brides are advanced in their planning? I got engaged in December and selected a date in January and a number of factors including out of state & out of country bridal party members jump started the decision making early. I’m one of those planned my wedding since I was five kind of girls so it hasn’t been hard..things like colors and who I want in my bridal party have been constants for years.
I’ve done almost all of the bigger stuff like DJ, limos, photo/video, dress, etc. and always find myself looking at and occasionally picking up little things (like $1.99 earrings for my bridal party on etsy!). However, I find other recently married and soon to be married brides/friends and family almost borderline make fun of me for having so much stuff done. If something about weddings comes up they always make a comment to me about the fact that I’m “done” with everything when I’m really not.
Is anyone else in this boat? What is the harm in buying something now if you know for sure it is what you want for your wedding which is now under nine months away?
That said, if there are any other early planners like me when do you plan on ordering invitations, favors, etc. Sue me for it, but I’ve already picked these things out too! I’ve wanted to order them for weeks now but I know once someone gets word of it, I’ll never hear the end!
Thanks for the insight!!
Post # 3
Just came from a wedding where we finished the programs after the rehearsal dinner!! Not this bride!
So far we have…
- Booked venue
- Booked photographer
- Picked Bridal Party
- Picked Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses
- Picked Videographer
- Down flower run thru
- Save-The-Date Cards
- Rehearsal Dinner Planned
- Rehearsal Dinner Invites Done
- Bridal Shower DIY Thank You Notes/Envelopes Done
And thats it!! I have a ton of ideas floating around on my million spreadsheets. Just have to follow through on them. Def picking DJ/band, DOC this month. I also like to do things that are easy ahead of time i.e. rehearsal dinner invitations. Lots of the DIY paper stuff is already designed just needs to be printed. Better to be done early than be rushing in the end!
Post # 4
I have definitely ran into the same issue with people making snarky comments about my early planning. Everytime I have to have a little self-talk with myself so that I do not completely freak out on them.
I was also engaged in December and am getitng married May 2012. We should both consider ourselves extremely lucky to have had long engagements. There are a lot of things you can buy for a wedding, but one thing you can’t buy is time. We have had the opportunity to book vendors without running into problems like not getting the ones we want because we waited too long. Money-wise, it makes it easier to do things here and there at our leisure without having to fork it all out at once. I have found that brides who leave everything last minute tend to be the bridezillas. I am having fun and taking my time.
What I have done is basically put up what I like to call my “bridal shield” when people start to make comments. Don’t let their comments bother you. I almost did not order my save the dates right away because I was concerned what people would say. Until my fiancee said, nobody ever complained about being given too much notice so who cares what they say. Ain’t that the truth!
Do it your way, and stick to your guns 🙂
Post # 5
Hi Ladies, I also have heard comments about my early planning and I try not to take it to heart. I also have told people that my FH and I are paying for the wedding mostly on our own and not using any credit cards so I am planning ahead and paying ahead! so far we have planned:
- Booked our church and venue,
- Booked photographer,
- Picked Bridal Party,
- Picked the flower girl dresses
- Picked out colors
- Picked our flowers
This weekend we are
- cake tasting
- having our engagement photos taken
Next weekend I am going shopping with my bridesmaids to finalize their dresses and hopefully the Save-The-Date Cards will be out by the end of September!
Post # 6
i got engaged on Dec. 25, 2010. In March we decided to set a wedding date. So far I’ve:
– Bought two wedding dresses (in March). Still need to get my Asian dress tailored.
– designed and mailed Save-The-Date Cards (May)
– booked officiant (May)
– booked photographer (June)
– booked venue (May)
– booked DJ (May)
– wedding website done
– picked bridal party and we have already picked out BMs dress designer. BMs have to pick their styles by December.
– bought 3 pairs of shoes (to be fair, I purchased one pair years ago before I was even engaged)
– narrowed the invitation options (goal is to get them printed in December)
– waiting to go back to Las Vegas to do cake tastings with two different bakeries (my venue includes the cost of cake so we just need to go back and pick one. the design is done.)
– florist is almost booked. We’ve been going back a forth on the bouquets and centerpieces.
– booked three hotel room blocks since we are having a destination wedding in vegas
– bought 4 veils (this weekend’s project is to do a trial run and make my own veil using cheap bridal illusion so I don’t ruin the expensive silk tulle.)
– bought jewelery
– centerpiece items purchased
– pearl bouquet is 90% done (thanks to my bridemaids who helped me twist over 1,000 glass pearls. and yes, this is in addition to my red peony bouquet =)
– ceremony and reception music is 90% done
– and of course, the task list by month was created months ago.
Post # 7
I feel so behind! Got engaged Feb 2011 and set a March 2012 date (pushed far back from the original Sept 2011 date). Even with that, here’s “all” I’ve done:
- Booked the venue
- Picked out colors
- Decided on flowers & vendor
- Gathered invitation samples, but have not set on anything yet
- Picked the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses
- Looked at & tried on dresses (disaster!)
- Bought shoes
- DJ/MC (family friend)
So really the only solid things I’ve done are book the venue and picked flowers!
Gathering catering quotes (still refining menu ideas…) and invitations and finalizing some of the above are next on my agenda.
I guess some of this depends on what is important to you. For example, I’m not doing STD’s – I personally just don’t see the point. Also not doing limo service of any kind (my venue is just about 2 miles away from my parents, so no point).
Post # 8
Wow! Wev’e got
- The venue (backyard)
- The photographer (friendor)
- My dress
- Officiant (my bro)
And that’s about it! XD People kept getting on my case about planning too early so now I’m just slackin 😛
Post # 9
My fiance used to give me shit over how ‘soon’ I was planning things, but now that he sees how things book up and how fast time is flying in general, I think he gets it. I also own a store and once holiday starts in October, I won’t be doing anything but getting my ass kicked by retail until well after the New Year :/
So, here we go. Engaged in Jan ’11, getting married 5/19/12. So far I have:
- Booked ceremony and reception venue
- Booked caterer, tasting done
- Purchased dress
- Purchased shoes, but looking for one or two more pairs
- Booked Photographer
- Engagement photos scheduled 10/23
- Meeting with videographer later this month, will probably book him
- Bridesmaids just chosen, dress and shoe hunt has begun (they’re picking their own)
- Day of Coordinator booked (she’s a friendor that does this on the side, god bless her)
- String Quartet booked
- DJ almost booked
- Centerpieces/favors chosen, just have to put them together when the time comes
- After party location decided
- Swap of jewelry/custom hangers will fellow Bee through Etsy
- Custom bridesmaids clutches picked out, just have to order them
- Bridal Hair & Make Up trade being set up (between my store’s products and their salon)
- Boudoir session booked, shooting next month… eep
- Rehearsal dinner location decided, will book in a few months
Still left: DIY florals, fauxtobooth, custom paint by number, groomsmen selection, cake, transportation, hotel blocks, jewelry for myself (buying) and bridesmaids (making), parents gifts, grandma gift, rings, honeymoon (FI’s planning this one, I know nothing)… plus I’m sure a tonnnn more. Sigh.
Post # 10
@malisa0607: I got engaged 12/25/10 and my date is 5/5/12! Almost twins!
- Booked venue (live in Seattle, getting married in California)
- Bought wedding insurance
- Booked photographer
- Bought dress (final fitting next week!!)
- Done engagement photos
- Picked bridal party and officiant
- Booked DJ (grooms friend)
- Booked mariachi band (that’s right!!)
- Submitted flower order (Only for the bridal party and family, not for the decorations)
- Booked honeymoon resort
Overall I actually feel much less stressed after typing this list out! Apparently I have done a lot!!
Post # 11
I see that a lot of you have booked a venue already which is the smartest thing to do.
For those of you expecting out of town guests, make sure to reserve a block of rooms at a hotel. Ask for a courtesy room block when calling. These are the kind of room blocks that don’t require an attrition clause and generally don’t require a deposit either.
I realize many of you are getting criticized for planning early, but its a great strategy to saving maney as well. I know venue prices seem to go up every year so booking today would get you 2011 prices rather than 2012 prices.
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Post # 12
We have a wedding planner since we are a Destination Wedding. When we took our planning trip in April, we made a lot of the big decisions and wedding planner will do a lot of other things like book DJ etc. So far..
- Church booked
- Reception venue booked
- Caterer chosen and menu picked
- Photographer booked
- Save-The-Date Cards sent
- Wedding website done
- BMs chosen – dress shopping this weekend
- Shopping for my dress next weekend
- One registry list done
- Guest list done
- Almost decided on color scheme…
Post # 13
I thought I was doing really good at getting things done but I keep finding myself in slumps with no motivation now. So far…
Venue booked (1st thing I did)
Wedding bands purchased
Wedding dress purchased
Bridesmaids dresses purchased
Ring Bearer DIY done
Birdcage Card Box DIY done
Favors semi figured out
Centerpieces semi figured out
receiving quotes for transportation
working with linen co. trying to find a color match
I STILL NEED A CHURCH!!! Until I get a church I can’t do programs, invitations, etc.. so it’s driving me nuts!
TONS AND TONS TO DO YET!
Post # 14
For us so far, we’ve confirmed:
- Booked ceremony and reception venue (reception venue is a restaurant so caterer is also booked)
- Purchased dress
- Booked officiant
- Purchased shoes
- Booked Photographer
- Bridesmaids asked and dresses identified. One has ordered, the two haven’t.
- String duo booked
- DJ booked
- Hotel room blocks reserved
- Invites decided on but not purchased.
- Rehearsal dinner decided on but not booked
- Made an appt to meet w/our potential cake baker in Sep.t
Still need to choose/book a florist, start our registry, deal with linens and other decor detail, etc, etc, etc…
Post # 15
Thanks ladies! I’m feeling a lot better lnowing that I’m not a crazy loon, I’m just very organized. I agree, it is so helpful to have a ton of stuff done. It’s hard to believe it is September already and I know that in the blink of an eye May will be here. Once I go back to work in two week (teacher) my planning will take a back seat to get adjusted then the holidays will be on us and then it’s 2012…yikes, but so exciting! I’m off to do some more planning now. 🙂
Post # 16
Yes i have been rocking it. Everything is booked and deposits are down! Now time to pay it off!