(Closed) How much protection is “enough”?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you think birth control is enough protection or would you also use condoms?
    We're fully comfortable with just my bc pills/patch/etc : (49 votes)
    53 %
    We "double up" on our protection with bc & condoms : (14 votes)
    15 %
    We just use condoms : (16 votes)
    17 %
    Other : (13 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    When we were just dating (and still in college for much of this time) we doubled up and used both condoms and my BC pills.

    Once we got engaged, we sometimes used condoms and sometimes didn’t (I was still on my BC pills).

    Now that we are married and know that we are fully capable (financially, mentally, etc) of expanding our family if we were to get pregnant, we just use my BC pill and are completely comfortable with that protection.  Even though we don’t plan to TTC for another 3 years or so.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Personally Fiance and I have been using just BC for 6 years now and have never had a scare. That said, I do know of people who have gotten pregnant while on BC. My BFF and her Fiance use both BC and condoms because they just feel better using the extra protection. Honestly I think that you and your Fiance need to continue to discuss it and make the best decision for you both. If you are nervous about becoming pregnant and want the extra protection there is nothing wrong with using both BC and condoms.

    ETA: Whoops, when I say BC, I mean BC pills! 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Condoms are a from of bc.  Do you mean the pill when you say bc?

    There are different methods of bc that have various success rates when used correctly.  As far as the pill goes, I believe it’s enough. It never let me down. If you are worried about diseases, then you should also use condoms.

    Just curious, what kind of counseling are you guys going to?

    Post # 7
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I got pregnant taking the pill perfectly, so now we use a higher dosage pill and spermicidal films as backup.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @Mrs.KMM: We’re doing the same thing.  We used both condoms and BC pills for a while.  After we got engaged, we used condoms sometimes but didn’t at other times.  Now that we’re married we never use condoms since we aren’t necessarily trying to have a kid right now but it wouldn’t be a problem if I got pregnant. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It’s definitely good to discuss this together!

    If you are not comfortable with condoms, don’t use them. The bc pill has a way lower failure rate than condoms.  Which I totally believe, since I had several ‘oops!’ moments with condoms, but thanks to the pill, never got pregnant.

    Post # 10
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    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Fiance and I use both pills and condoms (because Fiance is very paranoid).  I haven’t had my pills in two months, so we have sex about once a week because Fiance is scared he’s going to get me pregnant.  Even though our particular brand of condoms have never failed.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I said we just use the ring, though I guess it’s like 1.5 methods if you count pulling out (which we don’t do for b.c. purposes, but I think I’m like allergic to him or super sensitive or something… yay tmi).

    When I was in a previous long-term relationship, we used two methods every. single. time.  Which is probably a good thing, since my ex and his wife ended up successful on their first month of trying when he was on a business trip the days they were most likely to conceive.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We currently just stick with the pill.  We’ve never really had a scare, except once when I forgot to take it for a few days.  We’ve been together 6 years, and got married in December. If we happened to accidentally get pregnant, we would be okay with that.

    If we felt differently, we might look into “doubling” up.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    With former BFs I always doubled up on protection. Fiance and I just use my bc pill. If we were in a place where we absolutely could not have a child I wouldn’t be comfortable with this, but we are getting married, have a house, and Fiance has a dependable job at his family business, so while we’re not planning on a child right now it is something that we could handle, which is why I’m okay with just 1 form of protection.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years and have exclusively used just the pill (except for the first few months of dating). I have no worries at all, and before him I had been with someone for almost 6 years where it was the same case. I am actually pretty bad with taking mine on time etc so I am surprised that we haven’t had any scares. 

    Post # 15
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    1165 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We have always doubled up – pills and condoms.  Lately we’ve been more lax about it and I’m still on the pill but we’ve just been pulling out instead of using condoms.  If I’ve missed a pill or taken one late I will tell him and we’ll use a condom.  While we could handle a baby right now, we really don’t want that for a few years, so we are pretty careful about it.  I’ve always said that if I were to get pregnant using the pill and condoms, that would be a serious miracle baby!

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We thought BC was enough. If we were in a hurry,  and didn’t want a huge mess to clean up, we used a condom, too.

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