(Closed) How much protection is “enough”?

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you think birth control is enough protection or would you also use condoms?

    We're fully comfortable with just my bc pills/patch/etc

    We "double up" on our protection with bc & condoms

    We just use condoms

    Other

  • Post # 32
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It’s been both. At first it was birth control and condoms. Then it was just birth control. Recently, I started getting paranoid about pregnancy so I told DH I’d like to use condoms more regularly. 

    Post # 33
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    And just to clarify, yes I realize we’re married, but right now I have no desire whatsoever to be pregnant and take care of a baby. It might sound selfish but I’m only 23 and would rather enjoy just marriage right now. My husband and I both like to travel and we’d like to do quite a bit before children. I’d also like to finish school and work for a few years too.

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

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    @waxbutterfly: Not selfish at all. Have babies when you’re ready!

    Post # 35
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I used just the pill for 4 years with DH without one single scare. I had one ex before DH that I was with for 3 years and we didn’t use a condom, but for the most part, when I was younger and a little bit promiscuous I doubled up with a condom. I had one scare with the ex, but didn’t get pregnant. The important thing is to take it every single day. 

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @waxbutterfly: Why would you think that’s selfish!?! That’s what the majority of people do, honestly, including myself and (I would imagine) a *ton* of other younger brides. 

    Now, what would be selfish is a younger person who isn’t prepared for a child (either mentally, emotionally, financially, or whatever) having a baby just because they feel like they want one. 

    I’ve known women who have wanted to get pregnant because they were bored with their marriage or because they thought it would somehow save a rocky marriage… THAT is what’s selfish! 

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Sry, double post >.<

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Used the pills exclusively with an ex for about three years and never had a scare.  Using pills again exclusively with current Boyfriend or Best Friend and no worries.  I always figure that if I did happen to get pregnant while taking the pills perfectly, it would be a sign that it was meant to be, haha. 

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Since the mirena is 99.9% effective, that is all we use.

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Oh man, he just pulls out. I don’t know why but it doesn’t freak me out at all.

    Post # 41
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’ve got a Mirena coil and that’s all we use. I’ve got a latex allergy so we have to use latex-free condoms if that’s what we’re using, plus they take away a lot of the spontaneity in our sex life.

    I don’t think you need to use two forms unless you’re REALLY terrified of getting pregnant (or you’re in a new relationship and haven’t been tested for STDs).

    Post # 42
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    DOH! Double-post.

    @SecretBee23 – Withdrawal is a pretty risky method of “contraception”. You can still easily get pregnant with it as sperm can be released in pre-cum.

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