(Closed) How much say did you have in picking your e-ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If you had to do it all over again, would you prefer:
    Total surprise - I trust him and love the idea that he picked it. : (11 votes)
    17 %
    I'd like to point him in the right direction but let him pick. : (22 votes)
    35 %
    I'll be wearing it for the rest of my life - I want to pick the exact ring. : (16 votes)
    25 %
    I'd like to pick something together. : (14 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I wanted to give input.  We went shopping, I found what I loved and he hated it!  Every ring I liked, he didn’t.  In the end, he picked something out completely different than what I would have – but I love it!  

    Oh, and wouldn’t you know – I got sized correctly once and at another place incorrectly.  Of course, the incorrect size is the one my ring is.  I will have to get it sized down, but there is so much detail work on the band, I cringe at the thought of it.

    Post # 4
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    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I definitely gave him some hints… that’s because he asked for them, haha!   I think he was way too nervous to spend so much $$ on something that I didn’t “approve” of, haha.  However, even though I would email him pics of pretty rings I liked, I had no idea which one he would ultimately purchase… that, along with the proposal itself was a complete surprise.  🙂

    Post # 5
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Oh i was so picky and I knew it. I told him it was his fault–I knew 8 months in advance when he would propose (R&R from Iraq) and I had 8 whole months to find out what I want =]. He picked out a 1 carat solitaire, proposed with that, then let me pick my setting. After I explained the rationale of *why* i felt like i had to pick it out (i’m so anal, i’ll admit it and we do not have the same taste) he agreed i should love what i get, which only happens if i pick things out myself.

    Post # 6
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I picked my ring. I didn’t want to be surprised, either by the proposal or by the ring! That just isn’t how our relationship works. 🙂

    Post # 7
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    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    He knew my taste and paid very close attention whenever we made trips to look at jewelry…so it’s no wonder I got what I wanted! =)

    Post # 8
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    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My proposal was a complete suprise, but my fiance says I kept hinting that I wanted different things and  he actually did have one picked out for me on layaway (which i saw later and did not like!) then he finally decided to purchase the loose diamond and present it to me in a “presentation band” which is just a plain white gold band, then when we returned from Cancun, he took me to the jewlery store and I got to pick out my own setting and wedding band which the loose diamond was set into! I thought it was an awesome idea…. anyways here it is!

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    Post # 9
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    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My fiance proposed with a plastic, cat-shaped ring and we went shopping together to pick out the real thing the next day Smile

    Post # 10
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    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    My husband picked out my ring completely by himself…he was so excited when he gave it to me and I’ll always remember that, his face and the little box he surprised me with while we were making dinner together one night, and not knowing what the ring inside would look like. 

    Post # 11
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    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I knew I wanted a vintage ring, and there was a very specific time period that I liked (Art Deco) so when my (now) fiance and I discussed getting engaged, I told him that I wanted to have input on the ring since I would be the one wearing for the rest of my life. 

    I ended up finding 8 or 10 rings that I liked, and let him choose from that group. He ended up choosing my favorite, too 🙂

    Post # 12
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    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband proposed with a card, and we started ring shopping together the next day.  It took us a while (which was driving me nuts!) but I’m really glad that we did it together, and I’m glad that we got engaged first.

    I probably would have picked something entirely different, and I think he would have picked something else too.  We got something that we both love.  Vintage was important to both of us, and he desperately wanted a sapphire in the center.  

    Post # 13
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    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We had never gone ring shopping or anything when he proposed. I was totally surprised (even after dating 5 years) & it was so awesome to see him light up when we recieved comments on how beautful it is. He is so proud of himself and that makes me love it even more. Just knowing it was something he picked for me. I can now have some input on the type of band I’d like.

    Post # 14
    Member
    81 posts
    Worker bee

    i haven’t gotten it yet, but my bf has an heirloom stone that he’ll be giving me (soon, i hope!), and he doesn’t want any input from me on the setting…actually, i think he’s already taken it to a jeweller to be made…(!!!!)…i’m actually kind of nervous about the setting because i don’t even know know what i would want (i once snuck into a tiffany’s on a business trip but only tried 1 ring on before bf called and i freaked out and ran out of the store!). i kind of wish we’d gone together just to look and see what we like and how it looks on me, but he didn’t want to do that….plus, i know his mom will be/is involved in the process since the stone “lives” with her, and we have really different styles and tastes….buuut, at the end of the day, i think it’s amazingly sweet he wants to do this on own, and he knows me so well i’m sure it’ll be beautiful and i’ll love it:)

    Post # 15
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    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This was a very delicate subject with us.  I did not drop any hints nor did he ask for any because he felt this was totally up to the man.  That’s fine, I think it was a great exercise to see how well he knew me and sure enough, he nailed it.

    Post # 16
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    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My Fiance proposed to me with no ring at all (though he had one of mine in his pocket, which he had taken from my drawer at home in case I looked like I was expecting a ring!), and we went shopping for a ring together the next weekend. I liked being able to choose together, and he said it took the stress out of him having to choose it on his own and worry about whether I’d like it.

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