(Closed) How much sex is TOO MUCH sex?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How much sex does your SO want a week?
    1-3x, i'm ok with that : (55 votes)
    26 %
    1-3x, but I would prefer less : (7 votes)
    3 %
    1-3x, but I want more : (37 votes)
    17 %
    4-6x, i'm ok with that : (36 votes)
    17 %
    4-6x, but I would prefer less : (11 votes)
    5 %
    4-6x, but i want more : (7 votes)
    3 %
    7x or more, i'm ok with that : (20 votes)
    9 %
    7x or more, but i would prefer less (3-5x) : (0 votes)
    7x or more but i would prefer much less (1-2x) : (10 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would say that’s a bit much. BUT…. guys are guys, I think my Darling Husband would have sex at least once a day if we could. It’s only my health, time and how he has to get to bed so early that stops that from happening. 

     I think it’s normal NOT to want it every day, as a girl… have you talked to him about it? I’m not sure if you’re asking if it’s just ‘too much’ or is the problem that it is making you feel like that’s the only thing he wants from you? 

    How much time do you spend together outside of sex? (that may be the better question) 

    Post # 4
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    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Maybe once you guys are together ( not in a DR) it will even out. He probably gets really pent up and expects you have the same desires. It’s okay to have different sex drives and for you to say no !

    You really just need to sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him what you like, when you like it and what not. If you just refuse constantly with no explanation, then his imagination may lead him to think there is something wrong.

    Best of luck!

    Post # 5
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    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I feel like that’s approaching the level of physical impossibility for a guy well past his teens to be able to do it that many times a day. He almost sounds nympho……but that’s usually a woman with cystic ovaries.

    Post # 6
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    He needs to be introduced to masturbation. lol

    I honestly think more than 7X a week is the point that it gets ridiculous.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think that question is relative to the couple.  

    For me, twice a day and/or every day would be too much.  Every other day is ideal (in my mind).

    Post # 8
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    For Me Personally – That would be too much (and it sounds like it is for you too).  But these things vary from couple to couple.  Is your Fiance willing to masturbate instead when you aren’t in the mood?

    Post # 9
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    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It depends on what you like. Have you discussed this with him? Are you ok with him finding other ways to satisfy himself?

    Post # 10
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Okay, just giving a different perspective – I AM LIKE YOUR Fiance.

    Honestly, I could go at any point in time. Although like you, just actual penetration isn’t enough for me.

    I’m the one who gets rejected all the time and when we are together (once every 2-3 months) it’s what we fight about most (him rejecting me / being too tired / me expecting it and then getting disappointed).

    I agree that more than 7x a week is a bit much. You have to take BOTH of your needs into consideration and talk about it and try to meet in a happy medium.

    SO and I had a long chat about our needs and wants and we’ve settled on trying to at least do it 4x a week.

    Post # 11
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would say that if you both wanted ot that often then it’s the perfect amount. I tend to be athere’s times a week kind of girl and dh and I hover around wanting it with the same frequency.  Weve done it more than once in the same day maybe 5 times ever. 

    Post # 12
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    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i thought about this again and wanted to reply to what I said at first. 

    I think sex is just too much when it hurts…. not just physically but also emotionally or the relationship on the whole. Too much of a good thing can be bad. Sex is meant to draw a couple closer together. If anything about the way you have sex is driving you two apart, it should be reconsidered. Whether that be too much sex, too little sex, uncomfortable sex, etc. 

     If your relationship is suffering then I’d say it’s time for a change. 

    Post # 14
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think most guys would do it several times a day if given the opportunity. Personally that is way too much. Even everyday gets to be too much – depending on the week. I love doing it but doing it all the time like that can just make sex mediocre ya know? I always find we have the best sex if its been a day or two between sessions but thats not to say there isnt a crazy saturday where we do it a couple times a day still but its not too often.

    I know what you mean about feeling like a bad girlfriend – i can totally admit there are times that i do it just to do it and appease him but you can’t that continuously happen ya know? there are nice ways of letting him know its not going to happen tonight. I totally look forwad to AF sometimes too so i can have a day or two off haha.

    ETA: i swear my husband still has the sex drive of an 18 year old. He just turned 27! slow down already haha

     

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @22buzzybee:  that’s why I said ‘a man well past his teens’ because it sounded exactly like he is still a teen. Any chance he can work on lasting longer? Maybe then he’d be satisified for longer.

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