- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
So I’ve got kind of a weird situation. My husband and I got married this past July on a beach in FL, but we’re having out reception here in St. Louis MO on our one year anniversary. For our wedding we asked each of our parents for $600… which I would have thought that most parents would have been thrilled by such a small amount… and my parents and his mom were awesome about it. They delivered in no time and kept asking what else they could pay for. Then there’s my father-in-law and his wife. They complained about the $600, wanted an itimized list as to what it would be spent on, and gave us so much grief, that I was ready to say forget it. Then two weeks after our destination wedding, they took a big week long family vacation to Mexico… needless to say I was biting my tongue.
Fast forward to the reception. I’ve always been the type to bargain shop and be crafty and I’ve managed to keep our wedding reception budget to $5000 (that’s food, drinks, space, dj, cake, linens, china, etc. and a photobooth) for 125 guests. We’ve mentioned it to our parents and once again, we’re getting that feeling of hesitation from his dad. The frustrating part is that his dad and stepmom make the most $$ of all of our parents! And when my husband mentioned the pricetag the father-in-law was shocked… he even said "that’s SO expensive"! I couldn’t believe it! Then he said, "well, isn’t it tradition that the bride’s family pays for everything"!! Of course to my husband my response was "yeah, and traditionally they trade cows and chickens for the bride, and traditionally the wife stays home and raises the kids…. need I go on?"
So, I’m 26 and my husband is 28. He has a good job and mine is great but the pay sucks. He covers the mortgage / bills / everything and I cover my student loans which are outrageous.
Be honest with me… are we too old to ask our parents for money with this? And what are grooms family’s paying for these days anyway? Is it completely outrageous of me to expect a little bit out of them? Even if it is $500? Oh, and by the way… we never had a rehearsal dinner nor will we, so the one thing that they would have covered they didn’t have to. I don’t want to be a bridezilla and I’m cutting costs everywhere I can! I’m trying so hard to keep my cool! Please Help!