(Closed) How much should I be sending on BM gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How much did you spend on your BM gifts?
    $0-$25 : (1 votes)
    3 %
    $25-$50 : (10 votes)
    27 %
    $50-$100 : (18 votes)
    49 %
    $100+ : (7 votes)
    19 %
    Other - explain : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think you are being cheap at all – I would really appreciate all those gifts as a bridesmaid!

    Post # 4
    Member
    562 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow can I be in your wedding? 🙂  I think what you’re doing is fine.  I’m much more of the practical stuff they can use rather than just stuff to give them type of gifts. Honestly tho, I thought I was spending a lot on my girls ($75 towards their dress each, $20 comfy reception shoes, $25 cute clutch, $20 homemade jewelry, ~$5 homemade bridesmaid survival kit) and my overall budget is close to yours.  I would say a nice card thanking them for being your BMs along with everything else you’re doing is fine.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think there’s a ‘normal’ amount.  We each spend what we’re comfortable spending.  If you’re tapped, just don’t spend more.  What you’re paying for already is a lot of money!  And I’m sure your girls will appreciate it all.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think there’s a ‘normal’ amount.  We each spend what we’re comfortable spending.  If you’re tapped, just don’t spend more.  What you’re paying for already is a lot of money!  And I’m sure your girls will appreciate it all.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Hair and makeup + jewelry is a gift all on it’s own! Personally, I think that’s plenty. If you wanted to do one nice “sentimental” gift to show how much you love them even more, you could always get a (nice) frame to hold a professional photo of you and each Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    Post # 8
    Member
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    It all depends on your budget!!  My budget is half of yours so obviously I’m not spending any where close to what you are (and I can’t afford it!)

    I bought them a cute Clutch in my wedding colors to use after the wedding ($40) and a silver necklace I had made for them through Etsy ($25).  They picked out their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and I told them whatever shoes/jewelry they want is fine….

    I am in a wedding this summer and she purchased us flip flops for the wedding, a tote that has out initials, earrings for the wedding, and something else I can’t remember… However her parents are paying for the bulk of her wedding so she can afford to spend more $$ on other things.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am paying for their hair and makeup, earnings to match the dress, and I want to get them something unwedding related that is just for them. For the last part I prob won’t spend more than $25, I just don’t know that I am buying yet.

    Post # 10
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think what you are providing so far is really nice, but I do think you should add one more thing that is truely a gift to your girls (it doesn’t have to be expensive).  Most of what you’ve done so far, while nice, isn’t so much a gift to them but is strictly for your wedding (wedding day hair, make-up and jewelery – and is the facial right before the wedding too?).

    I’m sure your BMs appreciate not having to pay for these items, but they could also just as easily do their own hair and make-up for free and won’t necessarily like and want to wear again the jewelery you’ve asked them to wear for your wedding.  These are more things for you to have your wedding day look how you want it to look.  I’d come up with one more thing that is strictly a gift to the girls, not wedding related at all.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think your gifts are nice and totally appropriate.  🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Instead of the facial, you might consider giving them something that’s just a gift (i.e. not something they need for the wedding). I think what you’re doing is nice though, particularly if the jewlery is something they would normally wear and don’t already have something similar.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2703 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i am spending around $50 for their personalized totes and the random goodies: flip flops, champagne flutes, Bridesmaid or Best Man tanktop, make-up goodies, etc.

    i am also paying for their hair ($85) and mani/pedi’s before the wedding day.

    it sounds like a lot compared to the average. but they spent $200 on their dresses and they’re taking me to vegas for my bach party… it’s the least i can do for friends that are like sisters to me.

    i’m saving for their hair and spa session… but the goodie bags i got really cheap with random wedding details that i’ve found in my planning 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    If the jewelry is your bridesmaid’s style then I think it’s fine to consider that a gift… honestly the hairdos and makeup sound over the top expensive!  (I’m from a small town with a fabulous hairstylist, so I just can’t imagine it being that costly… and unless you are actually purchasing the make-up… there’s no way that price would work… unless you are hiring a Hollywood stylist.  )  So your friends may not be thinking of that as a costly expense…  unless they all go to the same place you do… 

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