(Closed) How much should MOH spend on wedding gift?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor traveled to visit several times during the course of our weddign planning/pre-wedding events. For our wedding gift, she gave us a very nice card and a “night-of” care package that included scented candles, champagne, cozy sock — really nice relaxation stuff, and I thought that was totally enough. I think what you are suggesting is nice. I think most brides realize the kind of money their wedding parties have to shell out, and they appreciate the presence of their friends and what they do during the course of the wedding. Adding a thoughtful gift, though not necessarily expensive, is a great idea.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Some of my BMs spent $25 on my shower gift, and I thought that was generous enough (they threw the shower, so I didn’t really expect gifts in addition to that!).

I think $50 or more would be appropriate for a wedding gift. $130 is definitely generous, In My Humble Opinion. Personally, I expect my BMs to spend less than the average guest because they’re already spending a lot of time/money to be there on my special day, and I consider that part of their gift 🙂

ETA: I think the chocolates/champagne idea is great! Honestly, I would consider that & a card enough, but do what you feel is best!!

I’ve actually read a lot of posts on this board that the wedding party didn’t get the B&G anything, so I think whatever you do will be well received. Maybe see what the other BMs are getting to give you an idea of what is appropriate in your circle.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Darling Husband and I tend to spend more on the gift when we’re in weddings. I’m matron of honor for my Maid/Matron of Honor now and I fully expect to give her 250-300. For us, a $40 registry gift would not be an option regardless of how much we had spent on travel/parties/attire but thats how we approach the situation.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Ms. Stallion:  So you’d buy her 1 place setting? I’d just write a check for $200.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think that is a more than generous gift considering you have so many expenses.  A couple of my bridesmaids didn’t give me a gift at all.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@Ms. Stallion:  Honestly I think your gifts sound perfect.  That is something that I would do if I were the Maid/Matron of Honor.  I don’t think a place setting is cheap at all – that is one of the most expensive items on my registry.  Your friend will also know how much you spent on her wedding for other things (dress, shoes, etc) so I’m sure she will understand.  I agree giving her cash seems impersonal.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Ms. Stallion:  I mean honestly, anything you feel like giving is fine. I don’t find cash impersonal but I know some people feel that way. In my circle no one gives a physical gift at the actual wedding so thats why I was like “might as well just write a check”

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ms. Stallion:  Your gift ideas sound wonderful and generous to me!  With all that my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing for me (organizing bachelorette party in Vegas, two showers [one for family, one for friends], and generally helping me out with planning), I would be 100% okay with NO gift from her at all.  Not everyone would feel this way though, so I think your gift are more than sufficient to make her happy 🙂

Post # 14
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My Maid/Matron of Honor is the only person really helping me at all with my wedding. I sincerely hope she does not get me a gift. Everything she has done and is doing is gift enough for me.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

My Maid/Matron of Honor spent approx. $75 on shower gifts and gave us $200 in a monetary gift for the wedding, which we thought was very generous seeing as she’s a student and her Fiance is a new teacher.  I also bought her dress and my Mum paid to get her hair done.

I think your gift is perfect.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, I expect my girls to spend far less than everyone else. I’d be thrilled with my Maid/Matron of Honor picking something small and more unique off the registry. (If my Maid/Matron of Honor bought my cute salt and pepper shakers, for example.) They are already doing so much!

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