(Closed) How much should you donate to your officiant?

posted 12 years ago in Money
Post # 3
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Our chapel recommends at least $50 on top of the fee (the ceremony is $200)

Post # 4
160 posts
Blushing bee

Most places that ask for "donations" are still looking to get a couple hundred dollars from you. I would donate what it would cost to book an officiant on your own. Living in Ca, the rate for me would be around $300, but I know its different in other states.

Post # 5
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We are getting married in a my home church in the Chicago suburbs and are planning to give a donation to our pastor of $100 (the church costs $120 to use). 

I think anything between $100-$300 is appropriate.  $50 seems a little on the low end (to me)

Post # 6
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My church recommends $100.  Hope that helps.

Post # 7
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall

We are giving our officiant $100.

Post # 8
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

My church asks for $500, but in addition to that amount we will be giving our priest an additional amount, probably $100.

Post # 9
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My FI’s family is really close to our officiant, who was my former pastor, but with whom I lost touch over the years, so Fiance is handling that. I think FI’s family is going to pay for him and his family to fly from Indiana to North Carolina and pay for their accommodations. I don’t know if they will give an additional donation. We’re not having it in a church, so there are no requirements along those lines. We/They’re just doing what feels right for friends.

Post # 10
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception

we have to give 250 to the actual church and like you, our officiant is a close family friend so we’ll give him an additional 200 as a donation

Post # 11
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our officiant was also a close friend who refused to let us pay him, so we slipped him a thank you card with $100 bill in it during the reception.

Post # 13
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m glad you asked this question, I have the same concern.  Our pastor is a close family friend whom I have known since childhood, and since we are not getting married in a church we weren’t sure how much to give as a donation either.

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