Post # 1
As a spinoff from the other thread, I am wondering how much time people’s husbands/partners typically take off for paternity leave? At my husband’s old job he would have gotten 2 weeks of paid paternity leave, but at his current job he gets nothing. He was just asking me what he should do. He gets 3 weeks vacation in a year plus some personal and sick time (I forget how much but probably adds up to another week). I just don’t want him to use a ton of it up in case I need him to stay home with the baby some days when I go back to work, etc. What did or will your husband do, and what would you recommend?
Post # 3
The military give 2 weeks/14 days of paternity leave. He probably won’t take any extra.
Post # 4
My husband will get 4wks paid paternity leave.
Post # 5
@AvantLaLettre: You could see if your husband could use some of his vacation time as half days. It obviously depends on what he does at work, but if he stayed home with you the first few days to help out, and then took half days (maybe 3 a week or so) to give him time with you and the baby. Another thing to consider is that if you have to have a c-section, most docs won’t let you drive for 2 weeks. So you might need his help getting to and from appointments, etc, if you don’t have other family around.
My husband actually gets 3 weeks off, plus can use vacation time. I’m sure we’ll do something where he takes time off in the beginning, and then after maybe 2 weeks, he’ll use another 2 weeks more sporadically, maybe half days here and there or staying at home 1-2 days per week. I’m hoping his company will be flexible with him.
Post # 6
Can he use sick time? I know at my work I can use sick time for maternity leave…
Post # 7
My husband is probably going to take 1 week off. I’d like him to take more time, so we’ll see. He doesn’t like to take time away from his kids (he’s a teacher) although depending on when I give birth it could fall around a break. But he’ll have the summer with the baby!
Post # 8
This is a funny question to me because my DH wasn’t planning on taking any time off when LO is born, except maybe the day of/day after. I kept saying “while I’m in the hospital, you will be there with me right?” and he came back with “For what, to watch you?”
I’m not sure, I figure he’ll take a couple days off, but probably check in to work during those days. He’s a bit of a workaholic, and since he’s comission based, I understand why. Every minute he’s not at his office could cost us $$$$.
Post # 9
My husband is a resident and gets 2 weeks paid paternity leave. However, in his field, not many of the husbands take the full 2 weeks (usually 1 week). So, I think he’s going to take 1 week right when the baby is born (end of May) and then a week’s vacation in July and another week’s vacation in August (he gets 4 weeks a year and his vacation schedule runs June-June). We just figure spreading it out so that he gets to enjoy the baby at different phases would be nice. I’ll go back to work in September and we’ll take another vacation at Christmas and maybe another the following March.
Post # 10
In CA, fathers get 12 weeks of baby bonding over the course of the baby’s first year of life, and 6 weeks are paid. With Addie, my husband took off 2 weeks right after she was born and then the whole month of December off (she was about 6 months old). With baby #2, he’s going to do the same thing.
My husband and I split the time when Addie’s home sick, which is ideal for our family. Personally, I loved having my husband home right at the beginning, but spring/summer is the busiest time of year for him at work, so it’s just not possible for him to take off more than two weeks, initially. Ah well, he still gets a good amount of time off, even if he has to wait to use it until winter.
Post # 11
My husband doesn’t get any.
I know he wants to take some time off but not sure yet how much he will be able to. We’ll have to see when we’re closer to.
Post # 12
DH works for a very small business (maybe 10 employees) so he’ll be taking his week vacation then. Hopefully his boss will “waive” the required month block out notice and just take an approximate date as the start start date.
Post # 13
my hubby gets 6 weeks PAID leave. we are very fortunate.
Post # 14
DH doesn’t get any time as he is self employed so it will be whatever time we can afford.
We do not have a paternity leave at my company but it is very common for someone to take two weks after thier child is born. Everyone gets 4 weeks of PTO per year.
Post # 15
My husband doesn’t get any paid time off period. If he doesn’t work, he doesn’t get paid. Our baby was born on a Tuesday night and he took the rest of the week off and was back to work the following Monday. Luckily my parents came up and stayed with me the next week so I wasn’t completely on my own.
Post # 16
My husband could take 6 months, but it would be taken off of my 1 year leave.
Instead, his work allows them to take however much banked time/vacation time they have if they want, without it touching my 1 year of maternity leave, so I think he will take 2-3 weeks off, and leave some banked/vacation time for later in the year.