(Closed) How much time did you spend apart from your husband on your honeymoon?

posted 10 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: How much time did you spend apart from your husband on your honeymoon?

    A lot of time, we wanted to do different things

    A few hours here or there, but mostly we were together

    None, it's our honeymoon

    Other (plese explain below)

  • Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    The only time we spend apart was if he wanted to run out to the corner store for something after I had gotten ready for bed. We were in NYC so I think he just loved being able to walk to the corner and get whatever he wanted.

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee

    I think it depends on the situation.  If this is a once in a lifetime trip to somewhere he has always wanted to go, I can understand why he has a list of thirty things, but that sounds like a lot to me, and I’m not the kind of person who sits around on vacation.  Thirty things over a week is more than four things per day. Unless a number of those are things you would do anyway – say eat dinner at a particular place, so it’s really just specifying where to eat – this sounds less like a vacation and more like a checklist.

    Don’t worry too much about what is normal.  Whatever you work out that seems fair to both of you is fine.  Maybe he can drop some of his list for this trip to spend more time with you, and you can accept that he’ll do a few things on his own (which it sounds like you are willing to do).

     

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I did not have my honeymoon as I am not married yet. But we will not be spending time apart. Its a Honeymoon. We love hiking, bike riding, site seeing, going to the beach, etc so we will do it all together. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee

    I am not a sit at the beach kind of person and even though we went to Bali we did none of that (touring, scube diving, shopping, eating etc), we did do some pool sitting and reading. I could only handle a little bit of that so I sat at the bar across the pool. So we weren’t technically together, but near. I think once I went for a long walk and shop by myself too.

    Also I had trouble adjusting to the time change so I was up at 3 AM every morning and read until about 6 when he got up. If that counts.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’ll be on a cruise so I imagine we’ll be joined at the hip at all times… I don’t like to be alone with strangers and I get lost easily. On the islands I’ll be holding his hand the entire time just because I’m terrified of the ship leaving without us lol.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    On our honeymoon we went to Antgigua for a week and spent majority of our time together. I would get up earlier and would leave our hotel room without hubby to book our restaurants for the evening and Dh would meet me there 15 minutes later. During the day we would relax by the beach . One of us would leave to get drinks or going back upto our room for 20 minutes. Sometimes i would leave him for 20 minutes to go to the gift shop. We were together but not joint at the hip. I like to do some things by myself! However we were always together during meals and If we left the resort we did everything together. Anyway of compromising? Do some sight seeing when the weather isn’t as nice? Or get up early and check some sights out and hit the beach after?

    Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Well, we’re on our honeymoon now and we have different sleeping patterns so i wake up early and either lay by the pool for a few hours, walk to the store to get things we need or steal his ipad and spend some time on that while hes snoring next to me. But when were both awake we are together. DH has been sick most of the honeymoon so we havent been together as much as i would like but i need and like the ‘me’ time in the mornings before he wakes up. We like different things too but i can do that while hes sleeping and getting better and i just tag along for stuff he likes

    Post # 18
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    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We spent most of our time together.  There were a couple hours in total that we spent apart. We went to Cancun.

    Like I like laying out on the beach but my DH wanted to go take a kayak out.  So he did.  He was out there by himself for about an hour and then came back to lay out with me when he was done.   Also, my husband likes to sleep in.  I would leave to get breakfast. Also, there was a morning yoga that was offered.  I know my husband wouldn’t go to a yoga class, so I went on my own.  I was only gone for about 45 minutes. Oh, lastly, I like to get up at 8am to go save a spot on the beach chairs. I wanted to make sure I got a good tan.  So I would leave at 8am and my husband to come to the beach when he got up.  Like 9 or 10am.  I don’t think there was anything wrong with that.  I spend about 80% of our Honeymoon together. We went on excursions together and had dinner every night.

    Post # 19
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    Bee Keeper

    When we go away, we spend most of our time together; we pick places and resorts we both want to go to, and plan trips in advance, together. We do have slightly different tastes, so we have to compromise a bit eg I like to spend more time sunbathing, so sometimes in the afternoon, he’ll head up to the room and sit on the balcony and I’ll stay at the pool on my own for an hour. Which is fine, because we usually just read/listen to music anyway.

    I’d be a bit upset though if he wanted to go off and do a load of trips without me, and even more so on honeymoon. The whole point is to spend most of your time together, so while I don’t expect him to be glued to my hip 24/7, I think there should be room for compromise. In your case, maybe you could do a few more trips than you’d originally planned, and he could do a few less. I’d definitely talk to him though.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We spent a few hours apart on at least three or four days of our week-long honeymoon.  DH wanted to golf, so while he golfed I went to the spa.  There were also some days he would nap and I would go sit down by the pool and read.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with spending time doing your own thing even if it is your honeymoon – it’s supposed to be relaxing, and DH & I don’t always consider the same things “relaxing.”

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We are taking a delayed honeymoon, but we plan to spend all of it together except for one compromise – the resort we chose has a KILLER golf course, and Fiance is a huge golf nerd. He’s never gotten the opportunity to play at a golf course like this so I gave him the nudge to go ahead and play 9 holes one morning.

    I agree with you @Alexis22… I don’t want to be super busy during our honeymoon and come back exhausted!

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We went to Maui and originally wanted to plan a morning where he went golfing and I went shopping, but we ended up nixing that idea. We were together the whole time minus a few hours in the early AM when I went down to get good seats at the pool before he woke up.

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    The only time we were really apart- aside from times I stayed up late in the living room working on typing up my research for applications (yes, I took homework on the honeymoon) – was when DH would run to the store for cold/sinus stuff for me, or got up to get another drink at the luau (or of course, bathroom breaks). We spent most of the previous two months apart- why spend all that money to spend part of our honeymoon not with each other? Yes, this meant I had to ride at his level but its okay for me to have a nice walk through an old sugar can plantation.

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