Post # 16
On our honeymoon we went to Antgigua for a week and spent majority of our time together. I would get up earlier and would leave our hotel room without hubby to book our restaurants for the evening and Dh would meet me there 15 minutes later. During the day we would relax by the beach . One of us would leave to get drinks or going back upto our room for 20 minutes. Sometimes i would leave him for 20 minutes to go to the gift shop. We were together but not joint at the hip. I like to do some things by myself! However we were always together during meals and If we left the resort we did everything together. Anyway of compromising? Do some sight seeing when the weather isn’t as nice? Or get up early and check some sights out and hit the beach after?
Post # 17
Well, we’re on our honeymoon now and we have different sleeping patterns so i wake up early and either lay by the pool for a few hours, walk to the store to get things we need or steal his ipad and spend some time on that while hes snoring next to me. But when were both awake we are together. DH has been sick most of the honeymoon so we havent been together as much as i would like but i need and like the ‘me’ time in the mornings before he wakes up. We like different things too but i can do that while hes sleeping and getting better and i just tag along for stuff he likes
Post # 18
We spent most of our time together. There were a couple hours in total that we spent apart. We went to Cancun.
Like I like laying out on the beach but my DH wanted to go take a kayak out. So he did. He was out there by himself for about an hour and then came back to lay out with me when he was done. Also, my husband likes to sleep in. I would leave to get breakfast. Also, there was a morning yoga that was offered. I know my husband wouldn’t go to a yoga class, so I went on my own. I was only gone for about 45 minutes. Oh, lastly, I like to get up at 8am to go save a spot on the beach chairs. I wanted to make sure I got a good tan. So I would leave at 8am and my husband to come to the beach when he got up. Like 9 or 10am. I don’t think there was anything wrong with that. I spend about 80% of our Honeymoon together. We went on excursions together and had dinner every night.
Post # 19
When we go away, we spend most of our time together; we pick places and resorts we both want to go to, and plan trips in advance, together. We do have slightly different tastes, so we have to compromise a bit eg I like to spend more time sunbathing, so sometimes in the afternoon, he’ll head up to the room and sit on the balcony and I’ll stay at the pool on my own for an hour. Which is fine, because we usually just read/listen to music anyway.
I’d be a bit upset though if he wanted to go off and do a load of trips without me, and even more so on honeymoon. The whole point is to spend most of your time together, so while I don’t expect him to be glued to my hip 24/7, I think there should be room for compromise. In your case, maybe you could do a few more trips than you’d originally planned, and he could do a few less. I’d definitely talk to him though.
Post # 20
We spent a few hours apart on at least three or four days of our week-long honeymoon. DH wanted to golf, so while he golfed I went to the spa. There were also some days he would nap and I would go sit down by the pool and read. I don’t think there is anything wrong with spending time doing your own thing even if it is your honeymoon – it’s supposed to be relaxing, and DH & I don’t always consider the same things “relaxing.”
Post # 21
We are taking a delayed honeymoon, but we plan to spend all of it together except for one compromise – the resort we chose has a KILLER golf course, and Fiance is a huge golf nerd. He’s never gotten the opportunity to play at a golf course like this so I gave him the nudge to go ahead and play 9 holes one morning.
I agree with you @Alexis22… I don’t want to be super busy during our honeymoon and come back exhausted!
Post # 22
We went to Maui and originally wanted to plan a morning where he went golfing and I went shopping, but we ended up nixing that idea. We were together the whole time minus a few hours in the early AM when I went down to get good seats at the pool before he woke up.
Post # 23
The only time we were really apart- aside from times I stayed up late in the living room working on typing up my research for applications (yes, I took homework on the honeymoon) – was when DH would run to the store for cold/sinus stuff for me, or got up to get another drink at the luau (or of course, bathroom breaks). We spent most of the previous two months apart- why spend all that money to spend part of our honeymoon not with each other? Yes, this meant I had to ride at his level but its okay for me to have a nice walk through an old sugar can plantation.
Post # 24
DH would go out for a run every morning on our honeymoon, so usually an hour or so a day. I would get up, take a shower and make breakfast while he was out (we had a cabin up in the Adirondacks). Other than that we didn’t really spend any time apart.
Post # 25
I don’t think you should worry about what the norm is. It only really matters what you and your fiance think is best.
That said, it seems like you are bothered by the fact that he wants to spend so much time away from you. Is this something you’ve talked to him about? If not, you should, and then maybe you could reach some kind of compromise. Since there are things he really wants to do and you love him, you should give him the ability to do those things, even if it means spending some of your honeymoon time apart. Likewise, since you want to spend most of your time together and he loves you, he should be willing to curtail his list.
Post # 26
I had to think about this for a little while, because hubs and I are independent people who often do our own thing. But I honestly can’t think of any time we spent apart on our honeymoon! We did mostly everything together.
I will say that your husband may not actually want to DO all the things he has planned. We picked one of our hotels for the fact that it had free kayaks, jet skis, etc. and we were too burnt out on the wedding and in relax mode to even bother with anything. We went on snorkeling trips, explored the island, etc. but did a LOT of relaxing.
Post # 27
I talked to Fiance about it, and agreed to no more than 10 hours of individual time away from each other in our 13 day honeymoon. This way we will still have plenty of time together but he also has the time to go see the 15 different cigar shops he wants to see and go to a couple cigar factories as well. We are both pretty independent people, so who knows by the middle of the trip I may be begging him to go do something on his own. =o)
Post # 28
We will be taking a 7 night cruise and in one port he will be going diving (i’m not and can’t get certified) and I will be doing something else. But the other days we will be doing stuff together.
But I fully expect us to spend some other time apart. We are two different ppl with two different interests. And while we will be together, there will also be some time when he wants to do something I don’t- so we will split.
Do whatever makes you feel comfy.
Post # 29
We were gone for 5 weeks in Greece and I can think of only a handful of times we were not together and most of those times were for practical reasons, like I went to the market and he went to rent our scooter when we first got there. We didn’t really want to spend any time apart since we don’t get to see each other that much in everyday life!
Post # 30
My DH and I want ‘little’ of time for ourselves everytime we are on our vacation. He gets his ‘alone’ time when he exercise which is less than one hour a day. While he exercise, I am usually at the pool side or in the room catching on my own thing.