Post # 1
FH and I disagree on how we spend time at parties. My thought is to spend part of the time together, part of the time apart. His thought is to spend all the time socializing by himself as long as it’s a party where I know plenty of people. His reasoning is that we are coming home to each other, and to spend the time with people we don’t see a lot. What’s your opinion? How do you and SO socialize at parties?
Post # 3
I think half and half. It’s fun to spend time apart and see other people but also fun to be together and interact as a couple. Its interesting to see how other couples interact in groups.
Post # 4
@guitargirl: Usually we end up spending some time together and some time apart, but I wouldnt say 50/50 all the time I would say it just depends on the party and the night. Usually if we go to someone elses party we spend a lot of time together, but if we host a party we are usually separate almost the whole night. I hate that, but I dont think my husband minds it.
Post # 5
Usually we show up together, greet people together, and then split up and mingle separately. We see each other all the time, so we don’t feel like we have to be attached at the hip when we’re socializing.
Plus, our friends tend to split up into guys and girls (we’re adults, how juvenile!) and the guys play sports video games or watch sports while the girls chat. There’s usually a background game of beer pong going on, too. Haha, omg it sounds like we’re still in college. Oy.
Post # 6
It depends on the party and how many people each of us knows there. I’m a shy person, so if I don’t know many people at a party I find myself sticking closer to my husband (at least at the beginning). Typically though we split up for a while and interact as a couple for a while. We don’t spend all the time apart or all the time together.
Post # 7
We do both. Hang and socialize together and then at time mingle solo.
Post # 8
we do both but we mostly tend to stay together. like @clarebee it depends on if we are hosting or guests to a party. If we are hosting Ive noticed we tend to mingle more than if we are guests. I dont know it just seems like we have our own inside jokes and pick up on the same things so parties are usually funnier when we are together.
Post # 9
I definitely think it depends on the party. If we go to a party that’s primarily for me, we will generally split up because my husband is very social and can always find someone to talk to. If we’re going somewhere primarily for him, I will normally stick pretty close to him unless I happen to find someone to talk to early on. I’m pretty shy and not very good at small talk, so I have trouble in places where I don’t know people.
If we are hosting the party, we generally won’t spend much time together.
Post # 10
I’m going to say its 75% apart 25% together if it’s our usual group of friends. If it’s a new group that one of us isn’t as familiar with then it’s the opposite.
Post # 11
I just go with the flow. If Darling Husband doesn’t know people, I’m not going to ditch him, but he’s a big boy and he can go talk to people he knows without me hanging on his arm and vice versa. But we don’t plan how we’re going to hang out at a party, it just plays out the way it does. If i feel like talking to him or saying hello, i’ll go say hi and offer to bring him back a beer or something. In fact, I just went to a wedding and wanted to dance. He doesn’t, so i left him at the table. Instead of nagging him to come with me, i just went and did my own thing and he eventually came out to join me and ended up chatting up some of my friends’ SOs. I guess I just kinda do my own thing and he can come along or not! =]
Post # 12
Usually I break off to converse with the ladies and Darling Husband yucks it up with the men, but if one of us doesn’t know anyone we either stick together or it just takes a little longer for this sex split to happen. When I go to the ladies room, sometimes on my way back I will stop in with Darling Husband and join the conversation for a little, but if it looks too manly I will bypass it. He also checks in on me frequently as I am his ‘little flower’ 🙂
Post # 13
It really depends on the night andsituation with us. Generally speaking we are near one another but not really “together”, we don’t do the whole PDA thing and we’re both very independent. We socialize as two seperate people but we do come together as well. Its important to keep a balance.
Post # 14
With us, it depends on the situation. If it’s a party with close friends or family, we spend the majority of the time apart. If it’s a party with people we don’t know quite as well, we spend the majority of the time together. Honestly, I’ve never really thought about it until now.
Post # 15
I think I’m with @JenBabe – that sounds about right for us too!
Post # 16
I’ve always been one to mingle on my own for the majority of a party. At most of the parties we go to, we both know lots of people. We’ll walk in together, say hello as a couple and then pretty much go our separate ways for most of the evening. I like it this way. We spend so much time together it’s nice to be able to just chat with whoever I want without worrying about him.
This has been an issue for me in the past. My last long-term boyfriend (before I met DH) hated it when I would do that and would always give me a hard time about it. He wasn’t very good at socializing with people unless he knew them very well. It was such a drag, worrying about not upsetting him, making sure he was having a good time, etc.
But Darling Husband and I seem to be on the same page about this. Which is just another reason why I know I married the right guy.