How much time do you get to spend with your SO every week?

posted 1 month ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
Member
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We spend the weekends together, unless i have to work or he’s running his gaming group.  He works second shift so we don’t see each other at all during the week unless i have a day off for working Saturday.  Luckily, I only work one Saturday every 2 months. I wish we had more time together but seeing as before this he lived in Japan for two years and we only saw each other every 6 months, I’ll take it.  We make the most of the time that we do have together.  That means getting out there and doing things and not sitting on the couch watching tv.  

Post # 17
Member
170 posts
Blushing bee

It used to be more before, a couple of hours on weekday evenings (6pm to 9pm or so) and the whole weekend. 

It’s less now because we have a 6 week old baby and even when we are together, I wouldn’t classify it as spending time together as we’re seeing to the baby. 

Post # 18
Member
5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

We spend like 95% of our free time together.  We met by becoming friends so we have always been a couple that are also best friends.  The majority of our interests align and we enjoy spending time together so it is always just our default rather than scheduled couple time.

We’ve always had the same commute regardless of where we worked or lived, some how it has always worked out that way.  We leave anywhere between 7-8 every day and walk to the station together.  I get off and my husband continues on for a few more stops.  If one of us has a meeting to prepare for and needs to get in early we will both go in early.

We might see our own friends one weeknight or maybe one of us is working late, the other days we are together every night.  

Most weekends we are together basically every hour.  The friends we hang out with are joint so we socialize but we are together. 

I don’t think it is really possible for us to spend more time together. 

Post # 19
Member
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

Not very much. He works for an emergency service, so his shift pattern is vastly different to my office hours. Pro: we could adopt a dog because there are only a handful of days a month when we are at work at the same time. Con: We go 4 consecutive days out of every 10 days when we only see each other asleep. I joke about it, but it’s actually horrible. Some weeks we genuinely see each other less than when we lived 60 miles apart but worked the same hours.

Post # 20
Member
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It varies depending on the work project I’m on at the time but if the project is local then we probably get 1-2 hours in the evening after I get home from work. Weekends he does his triathalon training and I go to the barn, often we’ll also divide and conquer errands. But we usually still get several hours a day with hanging in the evenings (sometimes that’s with friends/family too though)

We’re pretty independent people so it works for us, but we do try to do a weekend away each month so that we get a solid 48 hours of 1-on-1 time.

Post # 21
Member
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

We get to spend pretty much every evening (5pm-bedtime) together, an we see each other a little in the morning (about an hour) because we leave at the same time for work.  We’re also together for most weekends.

Post # 22
Member
3537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

We spend most evenings together, but the weekends can be a bit hit and miss.  He owns his own company and works 7 days a week, so it depends if he has a big project going on or not.  I’m an only child, and an introvert, so I don’t mind having some alone time 🙂

Currently, we spend the perfect amount of time together.  However, that has not always been the case. 

Post # 23
Member
66 posts
Worker bee

We spend a lot of time together. I work longer hours than he does so he makes my coffee and walks me to the door in the mornings and is there at the door again when I come home. On weeknights we usually cook together, play some video games or watch TV together. We both have a very busy hobby that takes up a lot of our time but we mostly do that together as well. Right now I am working on a project that he is not involved in, so we’ve had a bit more time apart. Weekends we are together. We are in the same friend group and typically if we are doing something with our families the other comes along. 

Sometimes we each do one on one things with friends. There is also a video game he plays that I have no interest in so most nights end with me reading by myself and him in the basement on the gaming system, but not always. 

 

Post # 24
Member
372 posts
Helper bee

I work downtown and he works from home so about 2-3 times a week we spend time together after work. The rest of the time he either goes cycling or to the gym since he’s dying to get out of the house. 

He works 1-2 Saturdays a month so I have those days to myself otherwise we’re together on the weekends. I do work from home once or twice a week so we see each other then. But I sometimes choose days to WFH when I know he is going into the office.

I’m an introvert so I love my alone time, but I truly feel like we see each other a lot. It always feels like quality, productive time when we’re together.

Post # 25
Member
2677 posts
Sugar bee

The first 2.5 years of our relationship we lived about 48 miles/1 hour (upwards of 1.5-2 with bad traffic), so we only really saw each other on weekends and occassionally during the week. 

Now that we live together, we see a decent amount of each other.  We both travel for work, so some weeks it’s more and some weeks it’s less.  We still spend most weekends together though.  

Post # 26
Member
2510 posts
Sugar bee

Most weekday evenings (he’s usually home by 7-8), and most of the weekend. I occasionally have plans with friends or events to attend during these times, but generally I try to schedule stuff for daytime when possible (like lunch or happy hour with friends instead of dinner) so that we’re together a lot. 

That said, while we are often together, we’re not always interacting during that time, so I would like more quality time together. It’s not uncommon for us to spend a weekend morning reading next to each other in bed but not actually talking much. On weeknights, we often watch a show together to wind down. I’m happy with the amount of time together, but I’d like more date nights, deep converstaions, shared activities (that aren’t passive like watching a movie), etc. 

Post # 27
Member
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress

We spend a ton of time together—we both work from home full time. About once a week I’ll leave an work somewhere else for the space. It doesn’t help that I’m an introvert who needs my alone time and he’s more of an extrovert who needs my love and attention. 

Post # 28
Member
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

We’re lucky to be able to spend a lot of time together. We get home from work within an hour of each other on the days Darling Husband isn’t working from home, and from there we’ll usually go to the gym, go grocery shopping, cook dinner together, etc. Once the kids are tucked in (they are 11 and 14 so don’t need much tucking), we usually watch TV or a movie together for a couple of hours before bed. We spend 90% of our weekends together.

Post # 29
Member
908 posts
Busy bee

We both work from home full time so too much lol! Sometimes we spend days together not even realizing it because we also share the same group of friends. Its nice when either of us travels solo for work. I love to get the house to myself. 

Post # 30
Member
224 posts
Helper bee

It depends on my rotation. As of this month I only see him for 2-3 hours  a day 4 days a week. As for the other 3 days we try to make an effort to see each other more but with our kids and their extra curriculars, his side music projects, errands and trying to keep up on the house chores, and my mandatory study time it’s a little harder. We are just happy to eat dinner as a family and watch a show/movie after the kids go to sleep. What keeps us going is knowing that this is only temporary.

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors