Post # 1
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Bumble bee
How much time do you spend together? Are you an “attached at the hip” couple or “do your own thing couple?”
I’m starting to wonder if my SO and I totally alone in this. The couples in my social circle all seem to be the type of people who do everything together, have the same hobbies, travel together etc. My parents have always been like this and they seem truly happy doing things that way.
My SO and I are not like this at all. We live together and he’s my best friend in the whole world. I love spending time with him. But I also like to do my own thing, as does he. He’s a homebody and I like to go out – we compromise when it comes to our “together time,” but we also spend time apart quite a bit. I go out with friends 2-4 times a week and I travel a lot. I typically take one longer trip with SO a year, but I also go on a lot of weekend trips with friends and family throughout the year. This has never been a negative thing in our relationship. In fact, I think it makes our time together more interesting because we always have so much to tell each other.
So… I’m curious….what kind of couple are you?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Long distance relationship for four years. We average seeing each other about every two months. When we are together we do most things together but that’s probably due to being apart most of the time.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Of course FH and I do some things together, but we have very different work schedules so we really do not spend all that much time together. We eat 2, maybe three meals together per week and of course vacations. However, I consider that one of our relationship’s strong points as I tend to be a loner and I actually get irritable if I do not have regular “me” time.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
We have the same interests and hobbies, so I’m doing things with my Fiance most of the time. We’re both homebodies and we love to cook, play video games, garden, fish, etc. all activities that we can do together. Sometimes we’ll do different activities around the house (i.e. I’ll be in my crafting room and he’ll be playing with the dog), but we don’t really like spending time apart. Even when we hang out with friends, it seems to always be with other couples, but maybe this is because we’re older? (33, 37)
In the end, I think it’s just whatever works for that couple. My relationship before this, we very much did our own thing. We also had separate groups of friends (i.e. my girls friends and his guy friends) that we would hang out with on our own. My Fiance is the only person I can really be around all the time and never get sick of.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
We do a lot together, but we’ve actually been spending more time apart since I got a new job last year. We worked at the same company, and would come in together, eat lunch together, and leave and go home.. together.
However, with my new job, I see him for maybe 30 minutes in the morning, and then we both go to different gyms in the evening, and usually meet back at home around 8. We spend time together on weekends, and I love going out with him – jsut the 2 of us or in a group. I do have “girls nights” and “girls trips” but we also vacation together. I just really like the fact that it’s flexible and there’s no pressure to be joined at the hip.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Completely attached at the hip, by choice. We love to be together. We also work together running our business so you get the picture. Although at work I’m in the office, he’s in the shop many hours so sometimes we are apart for 6 or more hours even though we are “working together”, just not in the same building.
It’s pretty rare that we go somewhere separately, although it’s understood that’s it’s absolutely no problem if one of us wants to do something without the other. We just like to be together, it’s fun! Plus we have many of the same interests, and what we had different, we’ve introduced the other to (for example, I took a welding class 2 years ago with him and I’m now a certified welder [so is he] which is good for our business as well as awesomely fun and cool that I can make garden decorations for my gardens and lawn furniture, etc.).
Not to mention we are both homebodies at heart and always have several projects going on around the house or our boat which keeps us busy, together. When we renovated our boat I did the upholstery, canvas, seats, curtains, bedspread etc and he did the woodwork and engine stuff.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
We’re kind of different. We spend the majority of our time together (when we’re not at work) but we’re homebodies. Neither of us really like going out, so we just stay home together.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@trueblue14: I’m the same way. I work a really stressful job and sometimes I need to come home and shut myself in the bedroom alone for an hour or so. I’m glad my SO doesn’t feel like it’s about him when I need me time…
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@sehrler: You guys sound like my parents 🙂 They would happily do every single thing together. They are SO happy and it works like magic for them!
Post # 11
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Busy bee
My husband and I are the attached-at-the-hip couple. We have the same interests and like doing those things together. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong, I don’t think it’s odd when couples go their separate ways. It’s really all about what works for each relationship. We would rather be together than with anyone else.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@MsMonkey: we are also older, maybe that’s part of it–we are both 44. Don’t have the urge to roam as much, or the energy to go out LOL
Post # 13
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Honey bee
We have our own activities and friends. While we do a lot together, we are not attached at the hip. At social gatherings we are comfortable splitting up . I have gone on many trips without him.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
We spend a lot of time together but also have our own lives. We each have things we go do alone, he golfs in summer, I go to yoga, or to happy hour with girlfriends, etc. But 99.9% of the time, all family events and trips as well as weekends with friends, dinners, birthdays etc we do together. Having a partner that is there for my family time is important to me, because he is my family. I wouldn’t be ok with going on family trips without my spouse, but that’s just me and OUR relationship. We also have a lot of things we like to do , we both like traveling, we both like to ski, and do weekends away, etc. I think if he could stay home from a majority of the random family dinners and stuff he would, but he doesn’t get to. Like I said, he’s my family, I’m his, we go to each other’s stuff.
Post # 15
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Honey bee
Outside of work, we basically do everything together.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
I met Darling Husband at work and we have been working together for the past 5 years. I’m with him all. of. the. time.
He does go on trips without me – ski trips and football weekends (two things I’m not totally into). We are apart *maybe* 3 weekends out of the year. But that’s about it.
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