Post # 1
I recently got engaged (YAY!) a week ago and my FI’s cousin got engaged a few months back. She is getting married Aug. 9 and I want to have a summer wedding as well. Living in Canada only gives a couple of months of nice weather so our weddings are going to be fairly close. I am trying to be respectful of her and asked if she was ok with me getting married so close to hers and she said 3 weeks would be a nice gap to have in between. I completely agree, but we’re planning on getting married in Jasper National Park and there are only certain dates available.
Do you think its ok if I get married before her? Do you think 3 weeks is a reasonable amount of time between? The 2 dates I’m looking at are June 28 and July 12 (nobody in our families want a long weekend because they have cabins, tournaments etc. which we totally agree with.)
Thanks for your help! 🙂
Post # 3
@Jme_C: 3 weeks is what she said. if you want to get married first, by all means do.
just make sure you are back from your honeymoon to attend her wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Based on many posts here I would hazard she would be upset if you booked your wedding before hers. But, she doesn’t get dibs on the entire year so if you want to book before to keep it a summer wedding then you can do that. She gave you a thumbs up on 3 weeks so I would stick to making sure your wedding is at least 3 weeks before hers. I would say to pick June so that it’s well before hers and should smooth over the likelihood of her being upset with you setting your wedding date before hers.
Post # 5
My cousin got married abotu 1.5 years ago, there hasn’t been another wedding until mine this past September.
I got married in September, my brother proposed to his fiance in December, and they’re getting married in October. So essentially they got engaged 3 months after our wedding, and will be getting married a year and a couple of weeks after.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Congratulations on your engagement!! 🙂 Jasper is an excellent choice!
I agree! Summers are way too short in Edm — pretty surprised how warm of a May we’ve been having! I am actually in a similar position, except that we can’t have a date set until we’ve put a deposit on a venue in the Rockies. After Fiance and I got engaged at the end of March, my cousin and her Fiance got engaged a few weeks later. They immediately booked two receptions in my home country and in Bali. (Their parents are wealthy and are paying for everything) We already have a tentative date planned in mind before they went ahead and booked.
However, everyone’s okay with family members attending one/not the other since it’s bad Fengshui (I wasn’t even aware of this one) to have two weddings close to each other.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I have a small concern that she might be upset if your wedding is before hers since you got engaged afterwards, but if she’s an understanding non-bridezilla she should appreciate that some people just have shorter engagements. Congrats on your engagement!!!
Post # 8
If she said 3 weeks, I think its ok. We’re doing 2 months between my SO’s brother’s wedding and ours, but that’s mostly because its out of the country for us and we didn’t want to international travel right before or after our wedding!
I think as long as it isn’t going to be hard for the guests to get to both (are your guests mostly local?) that is way plenty. My cousins got married 4 weeks apart and it was no big deal at all.