Post # 1
How much to donate to a funeral donation?
Coworker: super friendly, super nice, always polite, always smiled and said hello and made small talks regardless of how stressful work was. Resigned his position last friday and lost his son last night.
The son: Coworker spoke greatly of his son who was a good kid with good grades and played sport. He was super proud of him and had pictures of him showing proudly on his cube.
The tragedy: the son was hanging out with friends in a car that was not his and two people stop by and started shooting at the car and fled the scene. The son died the others were injured but survived. The motive is still unknown and it is pressumed that it was mistakenly targeted as the son was driving someone else’s car.
The news shocked everyone in the office… His resignation was already a big news we did not see coming and now this tragedy.. Few of us at work feel so bad we want to make a donation to help him in this tough time..
I have never done a funeral donation.. it has always been from my family..
So i was wondering what people usually donate..
I know there are a lot of factors in this and that I should donate whatever i feel like donating..
but I just want to see what others have donated….
How much have you donated or how much would you donate?
ETA:The company already got flowers gifted as company wide. I got a sympathy card for all to sign and whoever plans to donate, checks will be put with the sympathy card.
Post # 3
@lstyle25: I’m a little confused as to where the donated money will go????
Post # 4
@Holly77: the donation is meant for the funeral expenses…
Post # 5
@Holly77: It typically goes to the family in a sympathy card to offset the unexpected medical costs and costs of a funeral.
Post # 6
I’d probably do about $30.00-50.00. It sounds like you have a bond with the co-worker and thru him, his son. This really is terrible, how nice of you all to think of him during this time.
Post # 7
What a sad story! Honestly, in this situation, I would give whatever I could afford – so probably about $100-150 to help them with this. Not only are funerals ridiculously expensive, but I doubt the parents will be up for working much over the next little while.
Post # 8
Is this customary? isn’t it a little weird? If it is, I guess I’d send about 100. But I’d rather send something else, like homemade meals.
Post # 9
Honestly, give what you are comfortable giving and/or what you can afford. I’m sure the family will be grateful for anything you can contribute.
Post # 10
If the money is being giving to the family for funeral expenses I’d definetly give $100 and I’d send flowers and a card. This is so very sad. I will hug my boys even harder tonight:(
Post # 11
@bebero: I would second this, as well. If you feel close enough to this co-worker, a few casseroles or pots of soup don’t go astray during funeral times. It’s so hard to remember to take care of yourself when you’re grieving, so it’s handy to have friends and family that can help you out.
Post # 12
I’d donate time instead of money, or have the office set up a scholarship fund in the son’s name. Grief does incredibly unpredictable things to people, and there’s a huge risk that small amounts of cash trickling in here and there will be mistaken in their intent. Face it, funerals are really expensive and unless you are in a very large and generous office, you’ll barely make a dent. Because anger is a very normal emotion when dealing with a young person’s death, these small gifts, even though very well-intended, may serve as a catalyst for that anger.
Bake a casserole and drop it off to the family. Having been through the death of a loved one, I can promise that this simple gesture will bring a lot of comfort. The family likely isn’t eating. Offer to clean their home or run the laundry for them. People don’t focus on these daily tasks when they are grieving. But it needs to be done. I promise they will appreciate that more than $50 or $100, especially when they’re staring at a $9000 funeral bill. If you’ve got access to airline miles, offer to fly in a loved one from out-of-town. Bereavement fares and last-minute tickets are really expensive and may make it impossible for their loved ones to be there.
or set up a scholarship in the son’s name, perhaps to go to a promising young athlete, or create an award for a talented young athete in the son’s name.
Post # 13
My Grandpa died a few months ago, and I can tell you none of us wanted to have a bunch of food sitting around. I am not sure why people always want to make things for grieving people, but I am sure money would be more appreciated, since funerals are very expensive.