(Closed) How much to gift for black tie wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much on top of the $80 gift?

    $0

    $50

    $100

    $150

  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

    Whatever you are able to comfortably afford to gift is what you gift 🙂 You’ve already purchased something from her registry for her, there’s no obligation to give cash as well.

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    I am having a wedding where my Fiance and I live, however, none of my guests live there, so they will be going out of pocket to come to my wedding and I appreciate it so much! Because of this, I would absolutley never expect a gift of any sort from them! I know my wedding is not black tie, but I wouldn’t want to put people out more than them just coming to support me on my day! I am not even going to provide a registry unless someone can’t come and asks for it.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Give what you can afford.

    One of my friends flew across the country, took several days off work, hotel, car, etcetcetc. She asked me what I wanted as a gift and I told her, “you being here is what I wanted.” and I meant it.

    You already bought a frame. If you are up for it, print out a picture of your friend ahd her new husband to be. One of my friends did this for us and it was one of my most treasured gifts.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee

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    12_Elle :  what you have already purchased is generous enough. All my out of town wedding guests pooled together and purchased a small gift under $100. I was so thankful for that because they had already spent hundreds on travel costs. 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    The formality of the event does not dictate the price of the gift 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee

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    rockclimberbride :  +1 

    You give what you would give just as if the couple was having a backyard bbq wedding. They don’t get more expensive gifts just because they chose to have a more expensive wedding 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    80 already sounds expensive to me?

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    I don’t gift based on the fanciness of the event. I do gift based on my closeness with the couple. If money were an issue I would definitely factor in travel costs, especially if the couple was asking us to do something really elaborate. 

    I believe everyone should gift what they can afford. If for you that’s an $80 frame, that’s great and the couple should appreciate your generosity.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper

    Give what you can afford I say. 

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee

    Go the other way as in gift less because you had to spend more money for their fancier wedding? Hmm that’s an interesting perspective… I would say yes that’s okay if you just have so much money left over for a gift and that’s what it is. I say that because I’d rather someone spend money to attend my wedding and give me less of a gift than just not come at all because they cant afford it all. Bottom line give what you can afford and don’t feel bad. 

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Just do the frame and a nice card. That’s plenty generous IMO

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