- 2 years ago
- Wedding: November 2019
It was your friend’s choice to have a black tie wedding, and if she expects her guest to compenstate her choice then she’ll be disappointed. However, I am sure she isn’t worried about how much you gift her and will be so happy that you made the effort to attend. I would even go as far to say that she probably doesn’t want you to feel burden to give more than you can afford.
When I got married the first time, a friend of my ex-husband gave us a post-dated check. I wasn’t offended but thought it was sweet that he did what he could afford within his means.
Give what is comfortable & affordable and then enjoy the wedding!