(Closed) How much $$$ to give at a “cash preferred” shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would give the same amount that I would have spent on a present.

But yeah really rude- not sure if I could get past that!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PP, just give whatever you would have spent on a present.  Personally though, I wouldn’t even go to the shower…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yipes.  I honestly wouldn’t go to this shower.  But if it’s a close friend and you feel obligated, I would give a rather minimal amount.  I wouldn’t go over $20.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would give 50

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

wow never heard of someone doing that.very rude. $20 and a card is all I would give. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I usually keep my shower gifts around the $20 range.

Still blown away by the “cash only” thing, but like you said, I’m not planning it! :)-

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Im having a card only shower but in no way would I ever say cash only. Is this for someone who lives far from where the shower is? We have to fly with all of our gifts so we asked things to be sent to our local store and to give a card with a picture or a list of what our gift is. I dont think it is acceptable in anyway to ever ask for cash nvm say cash only. Id say give between 20 and 50$.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You’ll have to post afterwards how this shower went… If I tried this (and I wouldn’t dream of it!), half of my guests (Mom’s friends, FI’s family), wouldn’t show. 

You’re supposed to “shower” the bride with gifts, and ew and aw over her new mixing bowls! What is she going to do, just open her cards, and comment on what people gave her? Awkward!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would find something else to do that day and send flowers or something.  Seriously, this is bad.  Can you imagine her opening cards?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@KristenGotMarried:  @rebwana:  Some of us have no options but to open cards. I think it really depends on the situation. I think the whole cash thing is rediculous.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Doesn’t that defeat the point of a shower? I would probably bring cupcakes or a bottle of wine or something instead.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@naturalysam:  What you’re doing makes perfect sense- I’ve been to those showers, where the  bride lives on the other side of the country, and you have the picture of the gift. 

But the cash thing…wow. Still shaking my head.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would probably give her a gift card I hadn’t gotten around to using around $20.00. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you have to decide how much you care about what this bride will think. Are you close? Do you think she will be invited to your shower? Would she get you a really nice present? If the answer to these questions is no, I say find something else to do or give a small amount (around $20). If the answer is yes, you may want consider if you are willing to make her think you were being cheap and/or remember and get you a really cheap gift for your wedding/baby shower.

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