Post # 1
For the weddings of friends who we are close with but not BFFs, we have always given the following:
Total gift from my husband and me: $150-200 (the closer to $200 the better)
$20-30 at the bridal shower and then whatever remains for the wedding gift. We don’t factor in the costs of any bachelorette/bachelor parties we attend.
Now I’m stumped because we just got invited to a wedding shower honoring the bride and groom together. My husband and I are both invited. What do we spend? I still don’t want to spend more than $200 for both of us. Should we spend more like $50-75 for shower gift and $125 max for the wedding gift?
Post # 3
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Post # 4
I voted wrong…the wording slightly confused me. A wedding shower and bridal shower are the same thing to me….the shower before the actual wedding. I would spend the same that you normally do. The gift is going to the same place, it’s just that the fiance is there to open the gift with the bride to be now.
Post # 5
The same, the gift is ultimately for the same thing.
Post # 6
The same, I think the only difference is that a bridal shower is girls-only and a wedding shower is couples?
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I don’t think it matters all that much either way. If you’re comfortable spending around $200 total, then do that– how you split it between the shower & wedding wont be noticed by anyone but you.
Post # 8
yeah i say same, since a wedding shower is really just a bridal shower with a man there opening gifts too. every shower ive been to i have assumed my gift was for the couple regardless of who was sitting in the front of the room ripping through wrapping paper!
Post # 9
I think I’d spend about what I’d spend for a bridal shower, too. Gifts given at a bridal shower, while give to the bride, are really for the couple. But whatever you guys would like to do, sounds like it will about even out in the end in terms of total amount spent!
Post # 10
The same… aren’t bridal showers and wedding showers the same thing?
Post # 11
Same. I also thought they were the same thing! And I usually spend $50-150 depending on who is getting married.
Post # 12
@Boston Bee: A wedding shower (also called a jack-and-Jill shower) has boys present including the groom to be and the sig others of the ladies attending, any of the groom’s friends, etc.
I asked because, if I’m attending a party alone I typically bring something smaller than if my husband and I are both attending. I suppose it doesn’t matter too much since it’s $200 from the two of us however we decide to cut it.