(Closed) How much to give for a friends wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much money do you usually give at a wedding for a friend?
    $25-50 : (4 votes)
    7 %
    $50-75 : (11 votes)
    20 %
    $75-100 : (8 votes)
    15 %
    $100-125 : (18 votes)
    33 %
    $125-150 : (3 votes)
    5 %
    $150-175 : (3 votes)
    5 %
    $175-200 : (5 votes)
    9 %
    $200-250 : (3 votes)
    5 %
    $250-+ : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    It totally depends on your income and your level of friendship. Also depends a bit on their situation (in my opinion anyway).

    But I make a good deal of money and I generally will buy a gift that’s around $75 if it’s just me and a $100-110 gift (plus shipping) if it is me and my Fiance. So I think you’re being really nice as it is.

    Post # 4
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Well, I’m also in Grad School so, we usually do $50-$75. I’m sure that will go up slightly after Grad School and once we have more of an income, but I honestly don’t feel like there is a “right” amount. If it were one of my best friends, I’d probably be IN the wedding, so knowing that I try to keep it streamlined for everyone else. If you’re comfortable spending $300 in April and that is financially doable, I don’t think there’s an issue. If you do think that may be excessive (esp adding in travel costs, etc) then maybe cut it back to $100 each?

    Post # 5
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m from the Northeast and we (fiance and I) usually give $200 for friends. 

    Post # 7
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i didnt vote because i think it depends on what you can afford. Fiance and I are both long time grad student, so we would give about $100 combined for an acquanitance.  maybe a bit more if it was a really close friend or family member. maybe not thought, just depends what we can afford when we go.

    Post # 8
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    If it’s just me going to a wedding, I usually aim to spent around $40, buying from the registry. Now that we’re married, I’d say we usually spend around $75 on a gift. Maybe less if I had to buy a shower gift too.

    Post # 9
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t make a lot so I tend to give gifts rather than money. So I’ll pick 2 or 3 things from the registry.

    Post # 10
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I selected $25-50, even though I usually give less.  I will usually buy a gift for around $10-15, but I’m a college student and I really can’t afford more.  I also live in the southeast, if that makes a difference.  We’re poor down here 😛

    If you can’t afford what you usually give, then give less.  I’m sure no one will judge you any differently!  And quite frankly, too me, $150 is a lot.  I wouldn’t expect more than $40 from most guests at my wedding!!

    Post # 11
    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We usually give $100.  If it’s a really good friend, we would give more, probably around $200.  Lodging and other expenses would be a factor, depending on the circumstances. 

    I wouldn’t feel cheap giving less than $150 – I think $100 is very generous!  Really, whatever you can afford is generous in my book 🙂

    Post # 12
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Fiance and I are still in college (read: broke) but we usually aim for a gift totally $100, sometimes we can only scrape $60-$75 but then we usually try to use a coupon or find a deal to get something a little nicer. If moneys tight and you don’t want to seem stingy I’d recommend a gift rather then cash, even if they know how much it cost it still seems less obvious to me.

    Post # 13
    2496 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    We have tried to go for 50-75 per couple, but I would rather do 100-150.  We just can’t wing it right now as we don’t make a whole lot.  But, I do like giving gifts over money!  I just love going and personally picking something out… it’s so much fun!

    Post # 14
    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I just had this conversation with my Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s entirely regional, as you mentioned… But no one is going to balk at $100. So, as long as you’re over that, you’re good! Give whatever you’re comfortable with.

    Post # 15
    994 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m from the Northeast coast too and I’d sy $150 is average and certainly a nice gift. I’ve never gone below $100, and that’s usually if I’m attending alone (I don’t mean to insult anyone I know it’s very regional, and cost of living and cost of having a wedding here is definitely higher than other regions). I know those who are more established in their careers will give $250 or so. 


    Post # 16
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If it’s someone we’re not particularly close with we normally gift $150 from both of us. If its a close family member/friend then we gift atleast $200. This also depends on the type of wedding the couple is having since I do kind of abide by the “cover your plate” rule. If the couple is having a black tie affair and is clearly paying an arm and a leg to feed us then we’ll gift them more than we would if they were having a backyard BBQ reception. 

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