Post # 1
Quick question, am I being cheap haha? I am currently not working. I am in my friend’s wedding and have bought a $300 dress, paying for alterations, a few hundred on the bachelorette party, shoes, $50 bachelorette gift, and I was thinking about giving my friend $100 for a wedding gift (she gave me $75 just in case anyone wonders what the going rate for a wedding is where I live $50-$150). My mom said I”m being cheap. Now I”m second guessing how much to give. SHould I give more? Thanks.
Post # 2
sandra12345 : your mom is wrong. You aren’t working and you’ve already spent a lot of money. $100 is fine!
Post # 3
I would give nothing except a card with a heartfelt note inside. You’ve already spent A LOT on this wedding. It would be ridiculous and selfish of the couple to expect a gift from you on top of everything else.
If you really want to give something, then $50 is very generous.
Post # 4
In all cases, you give what you can afford. It doesn’t matter what some rich Bee, or some poor Bee would do in the same situation.
I think a card with your heartfelt best wishes would suffice. Members of the wedding party get a pass on wedding gifts as far as I am concerned. You have already spent a small fortune on somebody else’s wedding.
Post # 5
I’d give your friend the same amount she gave you.
Post # 6
sandra12345 : I agree with hikingbride :
You have shown your support by spending money to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, participate in her bachelorette party, bachelorette gift, etc. That’s actually a lot for someone not working.
If I felt generous, I’d give $50.
Editing: In this situation, you are not working so a card will suffice.
Post # 7
sandra12345 : given the huge amount of money you’ve already spent I voted 50 because there wasn’t a smaller amount.. If my bridesmaids had been asked to spend 300 (?!) on a dress I would have been mortified if they had bought me a gift as well.
Post # 8
If she gave you $75, i think anywhere from 50-100 is fine. Lie to your mom and tell her you gave more.
Post # 9
I would give whatever you feel like you can afford…since you’ve dropped several hundred already and went above and beyond, and gave her a bachelorette gift I wouldn’t even worry about it honestly.