How much to give for this wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: How much should I give?
    50 : (13 votes)
    35 %
    75 : (10 votes)
    27 %
    100 : (13 votes)
    35 %
    150+ : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    11652 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    sandra12345 :  your mom is wrong. You aren’t working and you’ve already spent a lot of money. $100 is fine! 

    Post # 3
    9666 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would give nothing except a card with a heartfelt note inside. You’ve already spent A LOT on this wedding. It would be ridiculous and selfish of the couple to expect a gift from you on top of everything else.

    If you really want to give something, then $50 is very generous.

    Post # 4
    47188 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In all cases, you give what you can afford. It doesn’t matter what some rich Bee, or some poor Bee would do in the same situation.

    I think a card with your heartfelt best wishes would suffice. Members of the wedding party get a pass on wedding gifts as far as I am concerned. You have already spent a small fortune on somebody else’s wedding.

    Post # 5
    1350 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I’d give your friend the same amount she gave you. 

    Post # 6
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    sandra12345 :  I agree with hikingbride :  

    You have shown your support by spending money to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, participate in her bachelorette party, bachelorette gift, etc. That’s actually a lot for someone not working. 

    If I felt generous, I’d give $50.

    Editing: In this situation, you are not working so a card will suffice.


    Post # 7
    6294 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    sandra12345 :  given the huge amount of money you’ve already spent I voted 50 because there wasn’t a smaller amount..  If my bridesmaids had been asked to spend 300 (?!) on a dress I would have been mortified if they had bought me a gift as well.

    Post # 8
    420 posts
    Helper bee

    If she gave you $75, i think anywhere from 50-100 is fine. Lie to your mom and tell her you gave more.

    Post # 9
    1409 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I would give whatever you feel like you can afford…since you’ve dropped several hundred already and went above and beyond, and gave her a bachelorette gift I wouldn’t even worry about it honestly. 

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