Post # 1
I’ll try to keep it simple:
-Evening wedding (6pm)
-Beer and Wine for one hour and then dry (ETA)
-Have known the Bride for 4 years. Were good friends for 1, then she dropped off the face of the earth when she started dating FI for the last 2.5+. Recently reached out to me about end of March, have seen them twice since then. Recieved invite and save the date.
-Was invited to both bachelorette and bridal shower but could not attend either, as they were both over 3 hours away.
How much? I’m looking for an amount good for the registry or cash.
ETA: *just* looked at the wedding website…and they’re basically requesting cash. Something about “saving to start a family.”
Post # 4
If there’s two of you attending, I’d give at least $100.
Post # 5
@badabing88: two of you attending, i say $100. probably not over $150 for sure but not under $50.
Post # 8
@badabing88: Give what is appropriate in your area but at the low end. In mine it would be €100-€150. I would give €150 to people like thisfriend you described. I give at least €200 to close friends.
Post # 9
Hmmm, that’s tough. I would suggest just getting a gift off the registry. This may sound bad, but I think people would notice a “small” cash amount over the price of an actual gift (even if the gift was the same amount as the cash). My thought process (if I was a total snob) would be “oh, badabing88 only gave us $20” versus “Oh!, badabing88 got us this awesome water pitcher we wanted”. Not saying I would actually think that, because I’m not a horrible person…Lol
Post # 10
Normally, I’d say $100. But since you were invited to both the shower and the bachelorette, I’d push it to $150.
Post # 11
I would give no more than $100. But I think YOUR financial situation also matters.
Post # 12
Either $75-100 or a gift off of the registry…mabe you could get it on sale somewhere and they wouldn’t know that you paid less.
Post # 13
@badabing88: If I’m giving cash I never go less than $100, but for this wedding (because it’s a dessert reception, mostly), I’d probably buy a registry item for $50 if I was going alone and maybe $80 if I was bringing a date.
Post # 14
I’ve found several things on the registry that would “go” together I could get them…my question now is: is it weird to bring multiple, wrapped presents? Think dishes, glasses, etc.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
$50 gift off the registry. If no registry then I might shell out $75 but no more for an acquaintance (which is what she is now if you haven’t really spoken in over two years.) I seriously would consider not going if she’s not a close friend but that’s just me.
Post # 16
@beachbride1216: oh, they definitely have a registry: try 4.
Whats funny is I just checked out their wedding site and they’re pretty much requesting cash. They said there are “just a couple of items” they really want but are “saving to start a family soon.”
…yet they have 4, 3 page long registries.