(Closed) How much to give sibling as a wedding gift.

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This really depends on your situation more than anyone else’s. If you and you husband make decent money and can afford 400-500, that would be great. However, if you can’t afford that much, 200-300 should be more than enough to cover both of your plates and a little more. I would maybe ask a close family member and see what they say since they would know you two better.

Post # 32
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it varies greatly depending on your financial situation and relationship. We treat our closest and dearest friends like siblings so we tend to do a little more than friends we’re just regular guests at. When our best friends got married we purchased them an excursion on their honeymoon in Hawaii that cost around $1200. When some of our other close friends got married two years ago we gave them $500. Obviously we don’t do that for everyone (we normally either buy a registry gift or do $200 cash) and are in a financial situation to do so for those people. 

When my brother got married, I photographed his wedding for free. I’m a pro wedding photog, and normally wouldn’t do family but they had a super initmate wedding w/ just a dinner reception so I was able to shoot along with my assistant and still enjoy the “reception”. They were on a really small budget, and that saved them about $3,000. It was our gift to them. 

When we got married my brother and his wife (they weren’t married yet) gave us a beautiful engraved cutting board. I love it, it sits in our kitchen on display. I would have never expected them to spend more than that because they just aren’t financially in the same place. I was actually pleasantly surprised because my SIL and I have VERY different taste….she picked a great gift. I don’t think DH’s sister got us anything…which didn’t surprise me. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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anonymombuzz:  I just spoke with my mom about this the other day. My sister and I are getting married within a month of each other (her doing, not mine, my date was set 7 months before she got engaged) and my Fiance and I are on a super tight budget now that we have to pay for the expenses of attending her wedding plus our own. My sister and I are each others MOH’s too. My mom told me not to get my sister anything for the wedding or her shower. So, I am not. Our budget just doesn’t allow for it.

I asked my mom what she thought I should give if I wasn’t in these circumstances and she said maybe 50 bucks, but in our area of the country and our social circle, you don’t give siblings gifts at their wedding. So I feel super cheap compared to some of these other posts! I personally would never expect my parents or siblings to give me anything. I would just give whatever you are comfortable giving and can afford in your budget.  

Post # 34
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I wanted to add to my original response:

Yes, I would give my brother $250 if he got married (we’re very close). However, I just got married and my brother has basically been out of work for the last few years. He JUST got a new job. So I did not expect anything from him. His financial situation is completely different than mine. 

Post # 35
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7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

What you can reasonably afford.

Post # 36
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343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’ve given 500 to 1000+ to be  closest friends… We usually give 150 to cover our plate for normal friends… Anything closer is day 200+

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Friends – $100,

Close Friends – $200 for myself and SO,

Family – aim for $500.

My only and favorite sister – most likely $1,000 plus attempt to cover some part of the wedding. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee

My gut reaction was $500. Since you are not traveling to the wedding that’s quite a savings already really. 

I’m also not close to my sister, but when your parents die your siblings are really all you have. So I try to maintain a relationship the best I can. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Holy crap, are you people drowning in cash!?!  Throw some this way lol!  I think $100 is a very nice gift, I wouldn’t go over $300 for ANYONE.  I’m in Seattle, not exactly a low cost of living area, I’ve never heard of getting a wedding gift larger than that lol!

Post # 40
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Bumble bee

My brother and I got married within 6 months of each other, and neither of us got the other anything. My brothers gift to us was driving us to the photos, ceremony and reception, and then DH did the same for my brother and his wife 6 months later. We’re not super close though! And we’re poor haha

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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anonymombuzz:  I have two sisters and a brother, my sisters and I gave each around 500. I gave my brother around 300, and he gifted me a vase that was around 100

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We got $500 from siblings for our wedding.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

For a normal wedding gift, I think $200 ish is appropriate, but for a close sibling I would feel right giving with a gift of ~$500-$1,000

 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I feel like I have to pick up a part time night shift in addition to my full time job after reading those responses. Here I am debating if I REALLY need that $35 powder I ran out of two months ago.

Adopt me

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

$500-$1000.

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