(Closed) How much to give?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much do you normally give at a wedding?
    up to $50 : (18 votes)
    25 %
    $51-100 : (25 votes)
    34 %
    $101-200 : (23 votes)
    32 %
    Over $200 : (7 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    2428 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I’ve heard so many views on this….give what you can, give what the norm is in your region, give enough to cover the cost of your plate etc.  I just go by what I can afford at that particular time.  I really don’t care if etiquette says I should pay enough to cover my plate, I’m going to give what I actually have in the bank account. lol  I do know that in my region, $50 seems to be the norm, but I also realize in other parts of the country, the gift amount may be significantly more.

    Post # 5
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We just started getting hits on our honeymoon website and $50.00 has been the norm per invite.  Most people have been relatives I haven’t seen in years.  If it was me and it was a close friend or family I would give $100.00 to $200.00 depending on what I could afford at the time.

    Post # 7
    5153 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I usually try to give around $100+ depending on how well I know the couple.

    Post # 8
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I have a usual gift of a pair of Tiffany champagne glasses and a nice bottle of champagne which runs me around $100, but if it’s someone I’m closer with I’m more likely to make my gift in the $150 – 200 range.

    Post # 9
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Normally I give what I can afford depending on how well I know the couple. I dont really giv gifts on what the norm is or what you “should” give. If i have $35 in my bank account im not gonna go broke trying to give someone $100+

    Post # 10
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    As a couple we give between $150-200

    Post # 11
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I spend about $125 on my closest friends but typically about $50-$75 seems to be “The norm” around here and what I give for friends in general. I usually set a budget for all the events I go to, though, so I don’t get carried away. Othewise I do.

    Post # 13
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think this is one of the biggest things that depends on location. I have never given a gift less than $200 for myself and Fiance, however we are from Boston and that seems to be the standard here. Anything less than $75- $100 per person around here is considered cheap. But I know that a lot of bees say the standard may be $25- $50 per person. I think the best question to determin this would ask how much it costs per person and then find out how much someone gives.

    Post # 14
    21 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was told that you “pay your plate” and a little more as a gift most plates these days for a nice big 5-6 course meal is between 100$-140$

    Post # 15
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i agree that it depends on your philosophy and where you live.  I personally follow the cover your plate rule, so we never give anything less than 100 per person.

    i also find that people follow the “i’ll give you how much you gave me when i get married rule”.  when i went to a brunch wedding i still gave $100 a person and when i got married, even though my wedding was a night reception, i got back the same amount from that person.

    Post # 16
    866 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We give what we can afford for the wedding gift, but sometimes there are other considerations (such as when you’re in the wedding party and have already contributed to parties, showers, etc.). An average gift range would be $100.

    @Ms. Purple: Could you clarify why you distinguish between a brunch and an evening reception? The costs are typically the same (where I’m from), and I would never consider the time of the wedding a factor in the amount I give.

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