Post # 1
I am a Bridesmaid for a Wedding in March and I am not sure what is appropriate amount to spend on their gift. I will be buying the gift with my Bf, a groomsmen (the brides brother). Is the wedding Party expected to spend more or less or the regualr amount on hte wedding gift? Just don’t want to step on any toes and I’m not sure since I haven’t been in a wedding yet. Thanks!
Post # 3
I always give a little more when I am in the wedding party even though I had other expenses, these are my closer friends so if you normally give a couple $200 then I’d do $250.
Post # 4
Opinions will vary widely on this. When Fiance or I are in a wedding party we spend more than usual on our gift because we are closer to the couple. Other people will say that you are already spending $ to be in the wedding so you can give less.
Post # 5
frankly it depends what you can afford. the couple knows you’re spending a lot of money to be in the party (especially if both of you are in the party), so they wouldn’t be offended if you buy them a less expensive gift. i spend more for people i’m closer to, but it all really depends on your finances.
Post # 6
We tend to give more if we are in the wedding, since this means that it is one of our best friends. I do not expect my wedding party to give us extravagant gifts, but I personally would want to give my best friend a nicer gift than someone I don’t know very well.
Post # 7
I also think it really depends on the situation.
We are on a really tight budget, so ours will be $20 per person…I think I am going to get them jewelry to wear the day of the wedding from Etsy.
I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding two years ago and she gave us inexpensive jewelry to wear the day of the wedding for a gift, but her mother had also bought our dresses, so we didn’t expect anything at all!!
Post # 8
For me, it’s sort of a sliding scale on how much I’ve had to spend on the wedding for being in the Wedding Party (I know, I know it’s an honor and blah blah blah. Still expensive). If the amount I’m spending on BM accouterments is high, then the gift cost goes down. It also goes down if I’ve already purchased things like a shower gift and contributed to the bachelorette party.
Yes, it matters some that I’m close to the couple if I’m in the Wedding Party, but there is a financial reality at play. I hate to be so cut-and-dry, but after paying for some combination (or all!) of the following: a dress, shoes, alterations, hair, makeup, mani-pedi, engagement party gift, shower gift and shower party contribution, bachelor party contribution, and travel, I’ve shelled out close to $1K for some weddings. That’s ok–it’s for a good friend and I’m happy to do it, but I just don’t have it in my bank account to do more.
Ultimately, give what you can afford and what you feel comfortable giving. I imagine that if you are close enough to the couple, they’re not going to turn their noses up at you if you don’t go for a big-ticket item.
Post # 9
@JennyW1: (I know, I know it’s an honor and blah blah blah. Still expensive). haha you said exactly what I was thinking… Its going to end up being a lot for both of us but since it is his sister we probably should try to do something nice. So what if I can’t afford to wat for a few weeks haha jk, I am sure she will return the favor once its our turn.
Thanks for the advice guys!
Post # 10
most our wedding party spent less on gifts than other friends, i assume because of costs of being in the wedding, and i totally, totally understood that! especially if you’re giving a shower gift as well, or paying a lot of other costs (travel, shoes, make-up, etc)…