(Closed) Bridesmaid gift ASWELL as hair, makeup and jewellery?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am buying my BM’s jewelry as their gift. I bought a small makeup bag to put it all in that have bridesmaid wirtten in diamonds on them. (diamond’s are out theame, natuarlly) My sisters has Maid Of Honor written on it instead.

Post # 4
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses (except for one girl), they are under $150 each. They an wear their hair how they like and I’ve requested they wear silver shoes of their choice. I would like to give them each a pashmina and a piece of jewelry they can wear to the wedding. I’m guessing it will run about $75-$100 each. Personally, I don’t think you need to give them anything else – the hair/makeup and jewelry are more than enough! 

Post # 5
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530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I spent about $13 on each. You guys make me feel so cheap! hahah I’m giving a clutch bag to match the shoes (they were on clearance at David’s Bridal for $5) and earrings (for $7.50). Other than that they are paying for everything else themself. I have never went to a wedding or been in a wedding where brides gave expensive guests. Usually its just the earrings and a small note or something. The girls are paying for their own hair and makeup. We have 3 girls: one is doing her own makeup and getting her hair done at the salon I’m getting mine done at, another is having her hair done by my friend who is a cosmetologist and is doing her own makeup, the last one is getting her hair and makeup done by the cosmetologist. My friend who is a cosmetologist told me that the girls can pay her “whatever they can afford”, which is nice. So they are paying $150 for the dress and whatever they want to pay to get their stuff done. My FI’s family doesn’t give any gifts to their groomsmen and bridesmaids.

Post # 6
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ashleyyyg: To be honest, if I were a bridesmaid (and I’ve never been one), I would not even expect a gift at all. I understand that it costs money to be one, but I always felt that it was an honor to be asked – for me that’s enough. Anything above that is a bonus for me. (disclaimer: unless you’re insisting your BMs buy really expensive dresses or insisting on other specifics, imho)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

A thank you gift (that is not part of their attire/accessories) is a nice gesture. Get something for them that you would get if it was for a birthday or Christmas that fits each girls’ individual style and interests.

Generally though, they are responsible for their hair, makeup, shoes, jewelry, etc unless they caanot afford any of it themselves or you are demanding a certain look for everyone. It is very gracious of you to pay for everything for them.

Post # 8
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3345 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am planning on buying their jewelry and thinking about taking care of their hair and possibly makeup (hair and makeup probably will run around 45$ per girl, and since I only have two bridesmaids it wouldn’t come up to that much…) I am unsure of getting anything else, I am very crafty so I might make them something special.  I know its an honor to be asked, but being a bridemaid does cost $ and I want my girls to know that I appreshiate them! 

Post # 9
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590 posts
Busy bee

I think paying for their hair and make up and jewelry is a good gift already.. I’m buying them jewelry and a small gift but that’s because they’re paying for own hair and make up..

Post # 10
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3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, because while it’s nice you are paying for hair and jewlery, these aren’t really gifts for them… they’re kinda like gifts for yourself in disguise.

Post # 12
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

We paid for hair and make-up for the girls, they paid for dresses – and they had the freedom to wear whatever shoes, whatever accessories, whatever cardigans they wanted.

Gifts don’t have to be super fancy expensive ones! I bought them a necklace/earring set {which they all elected to wear on the wedding day} and cute robes I got on sale from a lingerie store – they didn’t break the budget, but it was my way of saying thanks!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh I have not thought about it, I have one bridesmaid my sister, we are doing our own makeup and I am doing my hair and her hair (I used to be a hairdresser).

She bought her dress it was on sale for $100, it was not the one I chose (or even the same colour, I wanted her to wear green but she chose purple) but she really loved it so I let her have it. But then a few months later she said I bullied her into buying that dress and she didnt like it and complained to my mum so I had to buy her a new dress, which I did. She did give me the old dress as it fits me, but it was not my choice.

Anyway she bought her own shoes, she is wearing earings and necklace I gave her when I travelled a few years ago (I am also not getting a new necklace or earings but wearing ones I already have).

Do I have to buy her a present aswell?

Also what about flower girls? I have two, their mum paid for their dresses even though I offered ($40 each). I bought them a headband to wear on the day, is that enough?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You don’t HAVE to get them anything else.  Personally however, I don’t think buying them things to wear in YOUR wedding are really gifts for THEM.  It is really just more stuff that you want in your wedding.  I think that a bridesmaids gift should be personal to the bridesmaid and reflect her interests/style.

Do they have to have their hair and makeup done professionally?  Perhaps you can save money by letting them do their own hair/makeup and and buying them a gift that is truely for THEM.  Or, you could even make them something sweet and personal.  At the very least I would write each bridesmaid a personal letter thanking them and explaining how much they mean to you.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s not necessary, but getting them a gift (aside from things wedding related) is a nice gesture to show them your appreciation.  If you can tweak your budget to fit gifts in for them, I think it would be really nice.  Paying for their hair/makeup is for your wedding, not necessarily for their benefit.  The jewelry I could see being a great gift, especially if they could wear it again.  I say maybe something personal in addition tailored to each bridesmaid!

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