Post # 17
Technically, the gift should have nothing to do with the wedding. IE, a spa day (to use at their convenience, not as wedding prep), tickets to something, whatever. If you’re asking them to have their hair and makeup done, that’s an above-and-beyond expenses, and you should cover it (BM’s cover their dress and shoes).
That said, most of the weddings I’ve been in, the jewelry has been the gift. I don’t really care, because I can’t imagine getting a BM’s gift I’d ever actually use again- I kinda chalk it up with the dress as “one-time-wear”. I’d rather the bride pay for hair and makeup or mani/pedi’s and call that the gift rather than jewelry.
My bridesmaids are spending about $120 on their dresses, wearing any shoes they want, any jewelry they want (I don’t even want to give them a metal color, because most of the girls wear silver-tone, but my Maid/Matron of Honor wears a yellow gold necklace with her father’s wedding band on it. He passed last year, and she was really close with him, as was I for that matter, and I don’t want to ask her not to wear it). I’m toying with the idea of mani-pedi’s the day of the rehearsal, but I’m not 100% sure about that yet.
I’m going to get each girl a gift I think she’d like and use (something different for each), and I’m budgeting $50 apiece.
Post # 18
Yes, you should get them something else. These things are part of your wedding, not gifts.
Post # 19
I’m in the camp where the hair/makeup/jewelry shouldn’t count as a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift since you are paying for them to have it/wear it for your wedding. That being said, I wouldn’t expect another gift on top of that personally, even if I paid for the dress, shoes, etc.
I did buy little coach wristlets for my BMs as a gift however since they were cute and inexpensive. I’m also paying for their hair, but I don’t consider that part of their gift.
Post # 20
Depends on your budget. for me, the hair, makeup and jewelry should be enough. You can also add in a monogrammed tote with some wedding essentials into the bargain. 🙂
Post # 21
I got a super deal on monogrammed tote bags at http://www.etsy.com/shop/PersonalizedGiftsbyJ They were 9.00 each, it included monogramming.
Post # 22
I think what you’re currently planning is plenty. As PPs said, being in the wedding is an honor, not a chore. Perhaps wrap the jewelry and gift it to them with a note of thanks at the rehearsal dinner?
For reference, my BMs are buying their own dresses ($250), picking their own shoes, doing their own hair/makeup (we’re all ballerinas, we know how to throw an updo!). I am buying their jewelry – gifting it to them at the rehearsal dinner, each in a different jewelry box with their first initial engraved, along with a note of thanks.
Post # 23
I completely agree. If you’re the one requiring them to have their hair and makeup professionaly done and to wear jewelry of your choosing that is specifically for the wedding, that’s not really a gift to them. You have to pay for that stuff if you say they must have it done, anything else would be rude. To me a gift is something that they can use after the wedding that was personally chosen for them.
Post # 24
I think hair, makeup, and jewelry is plenty. As for the posts that say it’s not a present because it’s for your day, that’s not necessarily true as most jewelry can be reworn. My sister got us all necklaces and I love it and can wear it with everything, so that is a present not just something for the day of.
But I got my bridesmaids silver glitter flip flops ($3), earrings/necklace sets ($10, originally $35), and cardigans ($26). My Maid of Honor’s parents are paying for makeup for my entire bridal party as a gift to me and my hair stylist is doing everyone’s hair for free as my wedding gift. If those things were not being gifted to me, I would not be paying for them, I can’t afford it. I think what I got them is enough. Their dresses were $125 and shoes of their choosing.
Post # 25
we didn’t think to get any gifts for our bridesmaids/groomsmen because we bought everything they needed and only asked that they show up for the day of the wedding (we didn’t slave them pre wedding)! We would have obviously loved to give each something else, but we paid for their hotel to stay the night before and night of the wedding, bought their outfits, shoes, paid for the alterations, hair and makeup (the groomsmen didn’t get this obviously :p) and I personally made them their accessories (the boys got personalized cufflinks instead). I sure hope that’s enough…because we spent a lot on just the bridal party alone. :p (four sets) I think once we get the photos from our photog, we canl frame a photo of each of them and give to them for keepsake..
Post # 26
I definitely wanted to get my ladies a gift. I got them all huge fluffy bathrobes with their name embroidered on it. Their dresses were $150 pre-alterations, and my mom paid each maid $100 toward their dress. We also paid for their makeup. They were allowed to do anything they wanted with their hair, jewelry, and shoes so that was on them. They did have to pay their own way to travel to our wedding location and stay in the hotel, etc.
Post # 27
I paid for hair & makeup for each of my girls. They each chose and paid for their own gown and shoes. I also bought each of them a Coach clutch, my intent wasn’t for them to carry it on the day, although some did and some didn’t. The clutch was chocolate brown, and I’ve seen each of them carry it since the wedding =) I wanted to make sure that I got them something that wasn’t wedding related, so that they could re-use it.
Post # 28
I paid half the dress cost. Allowing them to pick own jewelry and shoes, I am buying them each a purse I plan to send a head of time as a little thanks. Then for wedding day I got them robes and treating to breakfast. They are paying own make up and hair, I let them all know they can to their own if they prefer. I think most bridesmaids say yes yo the honor knowing there will be costs. I think we as brides just need to be mindful of what we ask.
Post # 29
I am doing the following:
– $5.00 Tote Bag (this says Welcome and our names and wedding date)
– $15 worth of Savannah Bee Company lip balms and honey
– $12 padded fabric hanger for their dress
– A clutch (I make and sell them on Etsy so I know they’re expecting one)
– Necklace to wear at the wedding (and hopefully again and again!)
– If I can afford it I am going to offer to pay for either hair or makeup and let them choose which
Post # 30
I’d like to say that I seem to be in the minority… I’d rather the bride pay for a beauty treatment (mani-pedi, hair for the wedding, yadda yadda) than a mish-mash of trinkets I very well might not use again. Then again, some of the gifts I see posted everyone says they’d use, and I wouldn’t for a lot of it. I also have a lot of stuff I need to get rid of though.
My bride got me some pearl earrings and is paying for part of my dress. She knows what I needed!
I don’t care how much someone spends in general. One of my favorite gifts to get is home-made jam from my aunt and, even MORE importantly, honey from the bees they keep! YUM-O! I appreciate that there’s heart in it.
Post # 31
They bought their dresses ($120) and I am paying for alterations, hair and a mani/pedi before the wedding. I might also give them each a more personalized gift (like a framed photo) or something!