Post # 32
Honestly – the hair, makeup and jewlery isn’t really a gift. It’s all part of the wedding look, and will benefit you more than them. If it was up to them I’m sure they would do their own hair and makeup, and nix jewlery. So while it’s generous of you to do these things, it isn’t really a gift.
I think you owe your girls a “thank you” gift one way or the other. It could be something small, but it should be something that is meaningful to them. And not wedding related. A gift cert for mani/pedi, or to their fav restaurant. Or a pretty accesory.
Post # 33
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
I tend to lean to the opinion that if a Bridesmaid or Best Man can/should use XXX for your wedding.. that it is more like a gift to you lol.. so your wedding party can look pretty! I am gifting my girls CHI Hair straightners! (as well as other little things like nail polish, and any other cute things I find) But I am giving them a clutch to carry down the aisle.. the make-up that they get applied for the wedding and jewlery. Their dresses were only like 60$ and they are wearing shoes they already have but they are traveling a long way.
Post # 34
@jone0456: I really think that if you can swing it, a gift non wedding related is a kind thought. Hair/makeup and jewelry are for your benefit for the wedding, so it’s always nice to think about the girls and what they might like outside of wedding stuff. IMHO!
Post # 35
I am gifting my girls (2) with their dresses ($240 each with tax) and their hair and make-up ($120) the day of. I will not be getting them jewelry or shoes or anything like that.
Post # 36
I find it really fascinating reading about bridesmaids in the US being expected to pay for their dresses as (in my experience) this is so different to the UK. Here, you would never expect a bridesmaid to pay for their dress (or really any part of their wedding attire) and it is pretty much expected that if the bride is having a professional hair and make up artist, the bridesmaids would have this too. Really interesting to me to see the differences.
Post # 37
You don’t need to give them anything else, but that being said the thank you gift for everything they are doing for you should never be something meant for the wedding or about the wedding. BMs gifts should always reflect your friendship and each girl individually. I think It’s more rude to just buy the girls jewelry for the wedding or pay for hair and makeup for your wedding as their gift, also, if your making them get hair and makeup professional done then you should be paying for it anyways.
ETA: I’m getting my girls all a bottle of their favourite wine, a canvas printed pic of all of us. Chances are I will end up adding to it yet, I like the idea of monogramed robes for the day of to get ready, I’m definately giving them all a BMs survival kit at the rehearsal. I’ve got over a year to get everything togethr er so I’m not worried. My girls will be buying their own dresses, their make-up, hair and shoes are up to them. I gave manageable guidelines for them to wear flats for shoes, other then that I don’t care.
Post # 39
The three times I have been a bridesmaid, I either made the dress myself (the bride bought the fabric) or wore a dress I already had, since I was the only attendant. I don’t really remember receiving a bridesmaid gift at any of those weddings, but they were all several years ago.
When my daughter got married recently, it was pretty much a given that I would sew the bridesmaid dresses and the men’s matching ties in order to have the exact color the bride preferred–pine green. The guys only paid for the black vests they wore with their own white shirt, black dress pants, and black dress shoes. The girls chose their own silver shoes and made gorgeous earrings during some “down time” the day before the wedding. They paid to have their hair done at the same salon as the bride, but like the dresses, they each chose a style that suited their individual tastes.
As far as actual bridesmaid gifts, my daughter gave them each a silver ring-holder, trinket box, and picture frame, all part of a set that was included with the mirrors we bought for the centrepeices. The discount store where we bought these sets kept marking them down further and further so I kept buying a few more every time I saw them. I think we ended up paying $60 for 16 complete sets in order to have enough mirrors, so we gave the remaining silver sets to the girls who helped with the guestbook, punch table, and serving at the reception.
I agree with the ladies who’ve said that being a bridesmaid is an honor, but I also hate to impose on anyone by expecting them to pay a lot for that honor. Everyone likes to know that they are appreciated, whether it is expressed in words, special treatment, or a gift. For me personally, a sweet and sincere note leaves a more lasting impression than a gift.
Post # 40
I would love to be able to pay for their hair and makeup but it’s most definitely not in the budget. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding this summer, and the bride paid for our hair and makeup as our gift. I thought it was a nice treat to be able to get pampered, though sometimes I wish that I had something else to remember her big day with as a thank you from her, but in no way am I less grateful for what she did because I know how expensive that can be!!! So, it’s really all a matter of what you can do, I think.