Post # 1
I was asked to be a bridesmaid, but I will not be attending the wedding as it is destinaton and we simply cannot afford to go 🙁 We were going to give them a fair amount of money for their wedding because they are our very good friends and we are upset can’t go. With that being said, how much should be spent on gifts for the bridal shower? Is there a proper amount that you should spend if you cannot go to the actual wedding?
Post # 2
anguyen15: Don’t worry about the going to the wedding or not part. You gave them money for the wedding, which is your wedding gift.
Focusing only on the shower- I usually go in the $40-$60 range. That’s about the range most of the gifts I received at my shower were as well. For comparison- I’d usually spend $100-$200 on a wedding present.
Post # 3
I usually spend about $50 on shower gifts. It depends on the friend and what I find that they might like/what they are registered for. Sometimes I will go in with a few girlfriends and get the bride a gift certificate for something special like a spa day or weekend away in the mountains with her Fiance.
Post # 4
There is no proper amount. Whatever you can afford and want to give! I typically pick something around 50$. When I was broke, I gave something thoughtful but cheaper.
Post # 5
In my area $25-50 is common depending on how close you are with the couple. That’s generally what is given for wedding gifts too.
Post # 6
Pretty much everyone gaVe me $50 cash, don’t know if that is standard. If you are already giving cash then a gift would be better
Post # 7
I usually spend $50. As you can see by the responses on here, I think that is a fairly standard amount.
Post # 8
Okay thank you ladies! I wasn’t sure if I should give more since I was asked to be a bridesmaid, but will not be attending the wedding.
Post # 9
I agree with the other girls! I just got married and have a few weddings coming up. Don’t worry about not going and feel you have to make it up with a gift.
Post # 10
Depending on the relationship I have with the bride- for DH’s cousin who I am close to, I spent around $125. Anytime I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man we did group presents and spent around $150 each. For a work friend, usually $50-70. For reference, in our area standard wedding gifts are $300/couple, and we usually give $400 for closer friends. More for family.