Post # 1
This has probably been asked 1000 times – how much am I supposed to spend on Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid gifts?
We both have 4 on each side in our bridal party, but my “MOH” is a great male friend and my bridesmaids are all female. My FI’s best man is his father; 2 groomsmen are male, and his sister is serving as a “groom’s maid’. This will be FI’s second marriage, and he feels very strongly about certain things – thank you gifts being one of them (i.e. the gifts should be something they actually use, should be relatively inexpensive (FI is thinking $20-$30), and should not be something engraved or have our wedding date or monogram on it).
Each member on my side of the bridal party is flying in for our wedding from far away and the dress I’ve chosen for them is a bit pricey (it can be worn again) but I am paying for their hair and makeup. I *love* giving presents & want to give something very meaningful to my attendants (who are all my best friends other than FI). How much should we spend???
Post # 3
i agree with your fi that gifts should be useful and something they will actually use. but we decided to spend $100 per person because like you said, our wedding party is spending a lot of money to be in the wedding, plus they mean a lot to us. we figured the least we could do was give them something nice to show them we appreciate them.
Post # 4
We spent asbout $100 on all 12 of our attendants (6 on each side). A little more for some (like my Maid/Matron of Honor and his sister, who obviously couldn’t wear a tie so we got her a nice necklace instead). I think it’s important to factor in what they’re spending on you–travel, dresses, etc. Nobody likes to go above and beyond for a bride who gives them a chintzy gift…it’s not about the gift necessarily, but it kinda makes you feel unappreciated unless it was particularly thoughtful. I’d err on the side of a nicer gift. I love giving gifts, too =]. and I did gifts in addition to hair/makeup because I don’t think hair and makeup really counts
Post # 5
We have 8 people total in the wedding party. We’ll probably spend 30-40 on each of them depending. Plus I might get a toy or something for the flower girl and Ring Bearer.
Post # 6
For the people in our wedding, we spent around $100 this year on Christmas presents for them, and we’ll probably end up spending a similar amount for wedding party gifts. I would prefer to make it a little lower, but I know myself and how I get when I’m shopping for presents – it’s like the rational spend-thrift side of my brain shuts down, and I’m all, “Ooooh, pretty! So-and-so would love this!”