Post # 1
Our catholic church had an $850 site fee(included organist, cantor, and all the basics) and it was clear none would go to our Priest.
The priest met with us four times and we really liked him. He runs in marathons, is a concert pianist, and recently traveled to the Vatican/Rome to preform in a concert. We would like to offer him a cash gratuity in his thank you card. I was thinking that with the holidays coming up, if he didn’t wish to spend it for personal use, he could use it towards nice touches for those he works with or donate it as he saw best. He did not attend our reception so we feel offering him something would be nice.
1) Is this appropriate?
2) What amount would be best? We live in Boston so in general, there is a price hike on everything, and while we are not loaded, we do wish to make sure our thank you is appropriate.
Post # 3
I don’t think you need to give any additional money to the church, since that is probably covered inthe 850, but it seems to me that $200 is about standard to give to the priest, so I would go with $222 (as long as you explain why it’s such a funny number! 🙂 )
Post # 4
The customary amount for the priest is $100 (or more if you can afford it, or if he goes above and beyond for you, etc). In big cities, people give more.
I think $222 is very appropriate, since it will give the priest an oppurtunity to donate as he would like. And I’m sure he will get a laugh when you explain to him why the number is 222 🙂
Post # 5
in the wedding literature/guideline packet, my church had the suggested donation to the priest listed at $250… i have no idea if this is normal or not, but that’s what we gave him…
Post # 6
It’s definitely acceptable (and probably expected) to give the priest something. Our church had a listed “suggested donation” directly to the priest of $100, so that’s what we gave him. Go with whatever your comfortable with though!
Post # 7
We had to provide a donation to the church, not necessarily to the priest and it was at our discretion. We gave $300 since we used the school to get ready and had the church all morning through the early afternoon. We also don’t attend Mass regularly and usually don’t tithe so I felt we should give more because of that as well.
Post # 8
i don’t know why i never thought of this before. our church requires a $300 payment, plus money for the musicians, and alter servers.
Post # 9
my mother’s church group works w/the priest for special occassions a lot and their usual gift is $100. i live in a wealthy area so you’d think it’d be more, but $100 is appropriate.
Post # 10
In our church packet they suggested a gratuity of the same amount as you’re planning to spend on your cake. Struck me as quite funny, but it’s a sensible yardstick in a way because it takes into account different budgets.