(Closed) How much visitation can I request???

posted 6 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

The court WILL allow him to sign away his parental rights.  I would get a different lawyer.

However, the BEST scenario would be for your son’s dad to step up and learn how to parent…. is that a possibility?

I would encourage you to let HIM request visitation.  Then you won’t look like you are trying to sever the relationship between your son and his father…. regardless of intention.  Courts want to see BOTH parents involved in co-parenting.  Anything less than that….. and you will look combative.

Good Luck

Post # 5
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mrskisstobe:  What’s his address?  I have a right hook ready for him.  

I agree that you should let him request visitation. 

Post # 6
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You will likely be sent to mediation to discuss visitation arrangements. I think that it may be a smart idea to let him go first in mediation to request what he feels is “appropriate” and work from there. If he is truly disinterested, or even resentful of his son, he may request nothing at all.


@3xaCharm:  It may be a state thing. Here in MD a parent is not allowed to voluntarily terminate his/her rights  and responsibilities unless another adult is petitioning to adopt the child in the original parent’s place and immediately assume those rights and responsibilities.

Post # 8
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I think the reason your lawyer said he cannot terminate parental rights is because he would also then be off the hook for child support.  Although visitation is most likely not allowed to be contingent on whether he pays child support, he also does not have to take advantage of visitation.  That being said, if your son has health issues, you will want to keep your son’s father on the hook for child support and health insurance.  You should take the high road and have it written into your decree.  You simply have to make your son available.  For most infants, there is much less visitation.

It would not be in your son’s best interest to allow his father to not have to pay support or insurance.

Post # 9
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Insist that he have proof of having medical care available to him at all times, etc.  Show your plans for everything, locations of doctors, hospitals, etc, and insist that he show that he is as prepared. 

A friend of ours just went through a divorce and has their daughter every day but Wednesday, since that’s his only day off.  She insisted he show work schedules, etc, and tell the court where their daughter would be when he was at work.  He bascially just wanted to guarantee that his parents could have her a couple days a week.  They still see her (plenty), but don’t get to have custody – they aren’t the parents. 

Post # 10
7490 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just because he is granted visitation does not mean the ex will take your son for it.  My ex husband technically has visitation of my daughter 8 days/month.  He goes for 6-8 weeks without seeing her sometimes.  Do you think that your ex will even try to see your son?


Post # 14
1011 posts
Bumble bee

Even though you carry the insurance, you need to make sure he is paying half the premium, if not all the premium (ie the difference in what you would pay for yourself and what you pay for yourself + your son).  He should also have to pay at least half of all the co-pays and medication.  Right now your insurance is great, but you never know when something might change your plan.

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