(Closed) How much was your engagement ring? (POLL)

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How much was your engagement ring?
    $1000 and under : (106 votes)
    17 %
    $2000 : (83 votes)
    13 %
    $3000 : (69 votes)
    11 %
    $4000 : (43 votes)
    7 %
    $5000 : (47 votes)
    7 %
    $6000 : (72 votes)
    11 %
    $7000 : (30 votes)
    5 %
    $8000 : (26 votes)
    4 %
    $9000 or higher : (163 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 46
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    christabel:  you are right. I have seen a few threads like this one and I generally do not comment because I am uncomfortable. My first engagement ring was $80, I know because the original was stolen and I had to buy a new one. My current, with a new fiancé 10 years later is 10k. I was excited for both although in hindsight I know this relationship is stronger than the last. It isn’t the ring that counts but the relationship. Unfortunately mention of money is always uncomfortable so it is awkward to mention a higher cost ring. To me at least. 

    Post # 47
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    Buzzing bee

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    Michelleac:  You’ve gotten hate mail?! What in actual f*ck?! I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that. People just can’t seem to understand that everyone has different income levels, tastes, wants and needs. My OH is spending close to 10 grand on my engagement ring. That is definitely not what I would want to spend. It’s a lot more than what the budget was but he’s been working his ass off recently and once we factor in our bills and other expenses, it’s still doable so he said he really wants to give me a ring he’ll love just as much as me. If we could afford it he would have spend well over that and not thought anything of it. My ex makes 350K every week. We never discussed marriage however his sister had once let slip he was looking at rings for me. She told me he was looking at a few in the half million range. I nearly had a heart attack because I come from a low-middle range income family but for them it’s normal. He would probably have easily spent a whole million on my ring without a second thought if I said that’s what I wanted. Everyone is different so please don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you need to defend your ring. Rock that thing with pride girlfriend!! xx

    Post # 48
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    my fiancé was adamant on buying me a $10,000 diamond so that’s what he did. I’m not complaining. 🙂 

    Post # 49
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    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Gosh, some of you girls are so lucky! I can’t even imagine wearing a $30,000 ring! The 3 month rule comes from a marketing campaign from Debeer’s (Sp). I say whatever is affordable.

    My first was $1000 and we upgraded it to a $3000 ring a little over a year ago. 

    Post # 50
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We customized my ring so we picked out the stone first and then the setting. The stone is a 1.6 carat Ceylon sapphire and it was $3300. We chose a solitaire setting with a 4mm wide band in 14k white gold that was $650. Before tax, the total cost for the ring was just under $4k. Before seeking out a custom jeweler we shopped around in some stores and the sapphires we found which were smaller (1-1.2 ct) and of lesser quality were around $2.9-3.5k retail. If I had to guess the retail value of my ring I think it’d be around $6-$7k? That’s just a rough estimate based on what I’d seen in some retail shops; I could be totally off in my approximation! 

    Post # 51
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I don’t like threads like this. they only make people feel bad. what’s the point? An engagement ring is a symbol of love and commitment. there’s no price tag on that. And I don’t like this idea that money spent = amount of love. That is, quite frankly, bs. 

    Post # 52
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    Sukii:  Curiosity is killing me, what the hell did your ex do?!?!

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee

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    ksn1219:  seriously, 350k per week? That’s 1.4 million every month…

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    Post # 54
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    Tinatiny1:  Preach, girl.

    Post # 55
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    Sugar bee

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    Tinatiny1:  I agree with you that money spent doesn’t equal the amount of love, but I think this thread was started out of curiosity, not to imply that more expensive = better. I don’t think it’s devolved into that, either. I think it’s kind of interesting to see all the different responses.

    Post # 56
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

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    Tinatiny1:  agreed and I also think it makes the bees with hella expensive rings feel bad too. It’s a lose lose situation although I’m sure it was asked out of genuine curiosity 

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

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    finnrose:  How are you going to cover any of it since you stay at home? He sent back your $3500 ring, and now you are going to try to cover part of the much lowered budget he gave you? While he has a ton in savings and is getting a Lexus?

     

    I am literally running out of words at how pissed I am at your fiance. 

     

    Post # 58
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Mine was £530, so just under $800 I guess. I know how much it cost because I picked it and sent him a link. I have no shame about asking people the price of things so I know that is a lot less than anyone else I know. And I also am pretty crass when it comes to asking people their earnings, so I know our combined salaries are on the higher end. We both just felt a bit squicky about spending a lot on a ring because a) we know our financial situation could dramatically decline at any point and b) I have a lot of conflicting and not always rational feminist views on the whole marriage thing and c) I saw one I liked on budget.

    I always find threads like this super interesting because I’m so nosy!

    Post # 59
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    Just over $1500

    Post # 60
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    Mine was just under $9k, he was ok with spending that much, for him at the time it was probably just over the 3 months’ salary. I still love it today and look at it every day with a smile.

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