Post # 1
I’m looking for someone to marry my fiance and I. But we are not part of a church, and we plan on having a wedding outside.
We both come from Catholic familys, but are more spiritual then religious, and would like someone who is non denominational. I’ve been searching online and have seen different pricing. One of the officiants that i was interested in quoted me at 400 dollars for 20 minutes, it sounded very excessive, here’s the link to his site
http://www.assisiweddings.com/. He says it included Planning ceremony, rehersal, and the actual ceremony. Does this sound about right. We live in St. louis, so i dont know if it costs more in big cities areas, versus somewhere in the middle of nowhere.
Need help because i dont know what to look for, or what the pricing should be. We are already paying alot for other things, and dont want to spend too much on something i shouldnt have to.
Post # 3
We paid about $300 for the ability to customize our wedding vows and the activities. I didn’t really look for a lot of other options since there wasn’t much available where I was though.
Post # 4
I paid $425 including travel time and a rehearsal. It was really important to me to have someone we both really liked officiate and I was willing to pay for it I guess. The average cost of an officiant where I live is around $250-300.
Post # 5
We paid $850. Worth every penny.
Post # 6
$950…eek! So expensive, I know. But he’s a suuuuper reform rabbi who’s basically letting us customize our own ceremony, without the mention of God/use of Hebrew, etc. So it was worth it, since my dad won’t come if we don’t have a rabbi officiate (whole ooother story, lol).
Post # 7
We’re paying the rabbi $500. I wrote the ceremony, he approved it and we’re meeting once or twice more before the date. He’s also travelling about 2 hours on a holiday weekend.
Post # 8
Ours was $150, but looks like that’s not quite the norm! We got to customize, she attended the rehearsal, everything. Also, she just got her certification thing online though, so you may not consider her an “official” officiant.
Post # 9
I dont know how you would feel about this, but…
Fiance & I both grew up in church together. However, the pastor we grew up with is no longer the pastor and we’re not extremely close to our current pastor. We decided to have my grandfather marry us. The laws differ from state to state when it comes to licensing but you could always look into it and if there’s someone you know that you would want, they could marry you. That would probably save you a good bit of money and make it a little more personal. (:
Post # 10
Ours is $550 and totally worth it, IMO. He is very thorough and detail oriented. We have been so happy with our choice.
Post # 11
our rabbi charges $400 for people who don’t belong to our temple. (for some reason they told us it would cost us that much and then said no charge since my parents are members). we got 2 prep meatings, one to talk about the ceremony and one to talk about us, and the ceremony. but it was beautiful, we’re married, so it was worth it! (the donation).
Post # 12
OH MY GOD!! Thanks for the info! Im so happy i’ve had alot of feedback, i guess 400 is not that high. I read on another site that average was 100-250 or something. So i was thinking maybe he was overpricing us.
The Bishop i found does the customization and actually makes it to what we want. So I thought that was good.
Yea, We are not going to have anyone we know do it. 90% of our quest are from out of state, and I wouldnt have enough confidence for anything of them to do it reasonably..lol
Thanks for much for your feedback! I feel way more at ease!
Post # 13
haha i totally agree. its not convenient at all if they dont live close! that would be even more stressful!!
Post # 14
You can have someone “ordained for a day” by going through your state’s marriage office.
It’ll cost $75 to have my fiance’s stepmom ordained to have her officiate at our wedding. It used to be $35 for the state of California, but it went up this year.
My sister had our aunt ordained for her wedding, and a friend had his friend from Australia ordained for his wedding, so it doesn’t even have to be a US citizen to perform the ceremony. My other sister hired a unitarian minister, who was reasonably priced, but who always booked well in advance.
Post # 15
$210. I felt like $200-$400 was a huge range. We didn’t get married in a church by hired a pastor from the local baptist church that performs al ot of services at the palce we got married.
Post # 16
We are paying $400. Since Fiance is not Catholic and I am the priest agreed to bless us but not do the formal Catholic wedding.