Post # 16
Keep in mind that if any of your bridesmaids are plus sized, they might have to shell out extra for bigger sizes. :/
I decided to say “Screw it– wear a black dress that you already own or find one in your budget.” (One of my maids is very petite and the other is curvy, so I don’t think just one dress would have been a universal winner for them anyway.)
Both decided to seize the opportunity to get a nice, new black dress. Here is what they were comfortable spending (and keep in mind– these are for dresses that they will be able to wear over and over again):
Petite Bridesmaid or Best Man spent $70 on a dress from White House Black Market.
Curvy Maid/Matron of Honor spent $80 on a dress from Torrid.
Edit: And while I think it’s a good idea to ask your BMs what they’re comfortable spending, if none of them have ever been bridesmaids, you might be opening up a can of worms by asking them. Before planning my wedding, I thought that Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were super basic and $50 max. LOL. Maybe find several different types of dresses in your color for them to pick from!
Post # 17
I also agree that you need to check as to their budgets – unless, as you said, you’re letting them choose their own dresses and you really mean they can buy any dress anywhere as long as it’s gray. Then of course they can spend as much or as little as they like. That’s what I did for my wedding – let the BM’s pick their own dresses in navy blue. My Maid/Matron of Honor got hers for $60 and I’m pretty sure one of my sisters got one under $50.
I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a few weddings and recall spending around $150 on each of those dresses.
Post # 18
I would also ask for a budget. I am paying for my girl’s dresses which will be 100-150 dollars.
Post # 19
The dress that I like is in the same price range as yours. If I go with this one, I plan on sending them the link and then telling my bridesmaids individually that if the dress is too expensive for them, I’ll chip in however much they need me to in order to make it fair. As long as you’re willing to do that, you should be fine.
Post # 20
princessandthepear: “I’m not planning on asking seven people for their budget.”
Seriously? These are supposedly seven of the dearest people in your lives and you can’t take the five minutes per person (or less) that it takes to figure out their budget? That’s about a half hour of your time. It’s not some arduous task.
Post # 21
mine were $150 plus tax and shipping
Post # 22
Not all of my bridesmaids have picked their dresses yet (I’m having mismatched but a common theme – long and floral), but some have and others have it narrowed down to a few at a certain price range.
Before I looked into bridesmaids’ dresses at all, I asked them all what their budget was for a bridesmaid’s dress. One bridesmaid was low on funds so couldn’t go above $50, so we found her a great dress at a discount. Another bridesmaid was also low on funds and originally said only like $25, but she found one for just under $100 that she loved and so her sister (also in the wedding) agreed to loan her the difference. One bridesmaid just bought her dress and it’s close to $300. My last two bridesmaids are still looking, they’re willing to do upwards of $150 but would rather find something closer to $50-$100.
I was worried at first that the difference budgets would make it so that the dresses would look super different quality so that certain girls who couldn’t afford a really nice dress would feel bad. But I told them all that I had to approve their dresses and wanted them to look the same degree of fanciness (my polite way of saying I didn’t want any of the dresses to look much cheaper or more expensive than the others). I’ve had to veto a few dresses from my bridesmaid who was willing to pay up to $700-$800 for a dress (that’s just how she is, she loves dressing up and tends to buy more expensive dresses), and I just told her that they were too fancy and wouldn’t fit in with the other dresses. Likewise, I’ve vetoed some other dresses from other bridesmaids for being too casual (while also helping them find dresses that looked a little fancier/well made and were still in their price range).
So for me, it worked really well for the girls to decide for themselves their budget and let them pick out their own dresses, with guidelines and the option to veto.
Post # 23
princessandthepear: I think my girls spent between $50 and $250. I went mismatched gold sequin gowns so they were able to save or splurge as much as they wanted. Two of them bought their gowns second-hand, one rented the runway, another found a dress on the clearance rack, and the last girl paid full price for a gown she had been dying to get but didn’t previously have a good excuse to buy.
Post # 24
Voted in the poll, but the average I’ve spent on dresses as a bridesmaid: 150-250. Agree with PPs. I’ve always appreciated it when a bride asked for budgets when I’ve been a bridesmaid. Yes, when I agree to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man I am agreeing that I will be buying a dress. But given that it’s most likely something I’ll never wear again, it’s considerate to ask. Remember alterations will add to the overall cost.
Post # 25
Yet another Bee who thinks you should talk to each bridesmaid separately and ask what their budget is for the dress. Unless you plan on paying for all of them, you should not be the one deciding how much they spend. My girls spent $79 on their dresses because the budget for all of them ended up being around $100 and I did not want to max out anyone’s budget.
Post # 26
My dresses were $380 CAD. I paid for half of each dress without asking, as I didn’t even want to ask my girls to pay that much, but all of us loved the dresses so it was worth it for me.
Post # 27
My bridesmaid dresses were $230
Post # 28
Two of my girls are out of state and one is on a very tight budget so off the bat I knew we would do a David’s bridal dress because they could all go to their own hometown stores and try on the same dresses in person, and the pricing wouldn’t be too much.
When I look at what we chose, I am very happy with them for the type of wedding we are having, very laid back, cocktail style vibe. After the sales the girls dresses were in the 120 range.
Post # 29
Mine were around $200, and I paid for half of the cost for each girl.
Talk to your bridesmaids and ask what they can afford. It doesn’t matter if the average dress costs $500 if your girls can only afford $50.
Post # 30
I gave them options and they all selected the same $250 dress